Dating : We accept the love we think we deserve.

Love has been a very famous as well as a very infamous emotion of all time. Some may consider it to be the best thing that ever happened to them, which guided their lives to completeness. At the same time, for some, it has been such a dreadful journey that they would never want to return. And for most people, it is nothing but just luck, that can be either bad or good, depending upon the choices one makes.

Life provides everyone with a variety of possibilities from which to choose. We don’t always get to determine what our options should be, but we do get to choose the ones we want to embrace. For example, You may not have had a say in how you should look, but you do have a say in whether or not you love yourself. In most situations in life, including love and relationships, the same holds.

Relationships are about more than simply two people’s connection; they also include mutual comprehension of each other’s value. People should concentrate on the fact that the way they allow their partners to treat them is a reflection of the treatment they believe they deserve. Simply put, some people can settle with even the poorest of their type and believe that this is all they deserve. Some people have set standards for how they should be treated and what they expect from the person with whom they link up. As a result, they wait for the right person to enter their lives because they appreciate their own worth.

Each person’s insight into his worth can be different. One of the most usual cases in the dating world is that one person has higher self-esteem while the other one has lower. And if the difference is not that much then these types of things might not even cause any problem rather if they have a good understanding then one can help another to overcome their insecurities. When people understand their own worth and are also not too much self-centered, they cannot only respect themselves but also others. They are truly compassionate about life. having the same respect and value for each other is such a blessing.

We can find a relationship where two people can communicate even without saying a single word, instead of blaming one another they take responsibility for everything together and sort that out no matter how big the problem is. But these are rare and most of the relationships nowadays lack this. In this era of social media, everything is so much decorated before being presented but that’s not the on-ground reality.

In reality, We see people treated very poorly, humiliated most of the time, not valued at all. What these outcomes suggest in relationships is that the difference between their self-worth and self-evaluation is significantly greater than it should be. It can go either way: one person may have an exaggerated sense of self-prominence or may have a critically depreciated sense of self. Each case can have severe effects on the relationship.
If someone has been held in high regard for a long time, they may not value the person they are currently connected with. They may lose respect for the individual and begin to exert control over the relationship. They may be unconcerned about the feelings of others. All of these indicators point to a healthy toxic relationship. (pun intended)
Also, if a person has a low sense of self-worth, he may believe that he is unworthy of the person he is involved with. He can even feel bad about himself for not doing enough. Such people seek affirmation for all they do. And in their constant desire to please everyone, they eventually lose themselves. They have little self-esteem and rely on the person they are with for most of their life decisions. This trait may impose additional stress on the other partner.

As we have seen, People’s treatment of us is not solely their responsibility; we must also guarantee that they treat us well. Because everyone has the right to live their lives as they choose, and there can never be an excuse or justification for depriving someone of their dignity. People may not know it, but how we are treated by the people we love has a significant impact on our lives. If we have been properly loved and taken care of, we will continue to retain the same optimistic and blossoming outlook. If all we’ve learned from our previous relationships is disrespect, deception, and blame, all we’ll carry forward are insecurities and apprehensions. That is why we should be very clear and assertive about how we treat others and how we are treated by them because it does matter.

The most essential point is that no matter who we meet in life, we should make ourselves so compatible with ourselves that others have the least impact on our lives. We should continually work on ourselves so that we do not require the help of others to improve. We should strive to be the best version of ourselves at all times and avoid relying on others. One should always remember that everyone in this world is a part of this supreme creation and has equal worth as others.
(This sentence might have little deeper meaning than you think)