Dating : What does a man really mean when he says, “you will find someone better than me”?

Does this mean he wasn’t interested in me?

If a man says, “I’m not good enough for you,” does it mean he wasn’t interested in you?

Maybe. My fiancé used that line on me once. That is never the issue. It’s the story someone makes up in his head to justify his decision and make it sound like he is some sort of good guy for dumping you.

In my case, I didn’t let her get away with it. I dug down with her to get to the truth, we resolved it, and are happy. I wasn’t looking to solve the problem. I thought things were genuinely over but if you love someone, you get to the truth, and the truth turned out to be that we didn’t need to break up.

I see this a lot when meeting people who think they need a divorce. They think divorce will solve everything so they come asking for a divorce instead of asking how to solve their problems. When you dig down past the story they made up about why they need a divorce, you sometimes come up with a solution that doesn’t involve torpedoing the family.

When someone tells you “It’s me,” or “I’m not good enough for you” then he is not telling you the truth. It may not be because he is lying to you but because he has lied to himself first.

What I can’t tell you is whether the truth is any better than the lie. The truth could be something that you could fix, or the truth could be that he’s been cheating on you and finally decided to break it off. You get to the truth by not accepting the story.

If you can’t get to the truth then he was inadvertently telling you the truth when he lied to you. He’s not good enough for you.