Dating : Where Can You Find Dating Advice?

I learned from people around me. I observed what to do and what not to do. Every person has a story. I looked to those online that I felt could steer me into a good direction in my life and in love. My environment was not positive at the time. There were no people that I knew in real life that had conquered love.

I wanted to not be in the situation that I found myself in. I wanted to feel loved, have choices and feel that I was able to control the direction of my life. I felt hopeless and at a loss when I was vulnerable to the mysterious motives of guys. It felt like a puzzle that I had lost so many pieces to. Just wanting everything to feel complete yet feeling frustrated that things hadn’t come together.

I struggled getting guys to care about what was going on in my life. I would be open and honest and it was too much for them to take. They just wanted to have fun and not get involved in heavy emotional baggage.

I had to approach dating differently. I had to understand that whatever heavy emotional baggage I had that it didn’t define me as a person.

I followed channels on YouTube. I paid attention to those around me that had relationships and observed what they were doing… mainly it was observing Facebook posts to see if they had a successful relationship. I got clear on my own happiness and what that entailed. I had made progress with certain goals in fitness, health and finances that kept me going and made me feel confident.

I separated the baggage that I had from the person that I felt that I truly was. I presented the person that I truly felt that I was to the guys that I would talk to and meet. I was still met with uncertainty a lot of the times. This time, I knew it was coming from their side. I felt more confident and better about myself and still… I was feeling challenged!

I took my time in learning with love, dating and relationships. I knew it would not be a quick process. I made sure to put myself first with working towards my personal goals as well as put myself at ease in finding my potential mate.

I learned that every person is different. It’s like a new chemistry project every single time you put two different people together. You see what happens even though you have made the best calculations for what may happen. I knew that I could decide my path if I didn’t like what was happening. I could start anew again if I chose.