h2>Dating : Why Is It So Urgent to Be In A Relationship?
Why Is It So Urgent to Be In A Relationship?
It is human nature to fall in love, in a way with anything, such as job, hobby, music, art, man, woman. It is not a sin, even a blessing. But there are certain people I know whose known for their “thirst for love”. They would immediately start to look for someone new when they were failed from the previous one. Why is it so urgent for some people to immediately “falling” after “failing”? The fact that they will be loved, receiving certain “care” from someone, have someone who they can rely on, someone who would caress their heads, holds their hands, reminds them to eat, sending some encouraging words every day, greeting every morning and right before they go to dreamland. I know that the vibe is totally different from when you could receive from your family member or your peer group. The thing which could exactly be debatable is the immediacy to be loved. On top of that, some could take two hearts at one time. Is it normal?
Thirst for love is possible terms refer to those who starve of getting affection from their ideal of “significant other”. Cannot be alone in a long period is one of their typical traits. When they stated that they want to enjoy their “me time” it is most common that they will break their statement. Why? Because when the opposite sex approached by and his/her meet the expectation, then they easily open their hearts. When the moment comes, they won’t have time to take a breath or give their scars some healing time. The worst case is the moment when they own the possibility of… having affairs.
Infidelity is likely happening when one of them did not meet the expectation of the other one. Another possibility is one of them is “changing”. Actually, there are so many kinds of feasibility to look out for. The way they solve the problems for example. If you want to know “the real” of someone, then look at how they facing a problem and the way they solve it. Will every relationship go through this kind of problem? The answer is absolutely not. Then, the next question that would come up is “who will this happen to?”
For those who never satisfied with their partner, this might happen to them. Simply accepting your partner’s weakness and strength is not an easy task. They indeed take a vow to just simply say it, but actually hard to commit. When they found out that their partner did not meet their expectation in a certain situation, they drop the vow. A critical moment is when they have an argument over something and haven’t find the way out then suddenly someone appears and somehow soothe the tense. In this case, when one of them found what they expect to exist on their partners but it appears to be in someone else other than theirs that can lead to having an affair. Mostly it is unplanned, but I won’t say it happens to everyone on this planet, because for some people they would be able to use this moment to take over someone. The one who does the affair tends to face difficulty to determine which one they should let go. It has a high possibility that they couldn’t let go of any of them due to their emotional necessity. They are afraid that one of them might leave, and at the end of the day, they would feel a great emptiness in their lives for the umpteenth time. I have to say that this type of person is lack of accepting their partners’ weakness. They are hard to face reality. They cannot be alone, there is always desire within them to have someone who could give some affection towards them on a daily basis, so they won’t feel any void or emptiness. There is always hunger or thirst for emotional needs, The need of love.
One of the basic needs all human beings have is the need for love. In psychology, we don’t consider a certain need a disorder as long as it doesn’t affect the person’s life in a bad way but when the need for love:
1. Prevents you from living a happy life. “love has no meanings unless I find someone who loves me” Sounds familiar?.
2. Is so exaggerated to the extent that you always doubt that you are loved.
3. When the need for love Becomes the most important thing in your life
If the previous symptoms are found then certainly there is something wrong about your way of thinking that you must understand. If all you care about in this world is to feel loved or to find someone who can love you then you need to dig deep in your past to find out what happened to your personality that resulted in this strange development of your needs (Radwan, n.d).
So, it is normal if you cannot live alone or always wanting to feel loved from boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s all about priority in life. Perhaps, your day would be complete with the presence of someone who can spoil you with lots of love. It’s all-natural as long as three symptoms on the above don’t occur to you.
