POF : Am I really a horrible person
I don’t know what I am doing wrong, I finally got a reply from this girl, she was very pretty, it seems we hit it off, eventually after about a week or so, I asked if she would want to go out one day once the weather gets better , she said sure, that was last season which was winter. It is spring now and we still been chatting and I then asked her if she wanted to go out this weekend since it was going to be a nice day. A few hours later I went to check my messages and she has blocked me. I can’t imagine what she is going through. You see she has cancer, she listed it in her profile but I didn’t want to bring it up during our conversation as that would be incentive of me. Was that wrong or me? Did she block me because of me or because of her personal issue,. I tried to keep a positive attitude during our conversation. I didn’t talk dirty or any sexual slang. I am not much of a looker, I’m overweight but I really did like her. Am I just destined to be alone without a relationship?
It seems when I finally ask a girl out they either block me, stop replying or ignore my question completely.
Out of all the dating sites I been to, I only had long conversation with 3 of them. One with a deaf woman, two with the woman with cancer, and 3 I am still talk to from time to time, I haven’t asked her out in case I’ll get shutdown again
By. Jedite1000
> I don’t know what I am doing wrong…
The only thing you are doing wrong is thinking you are doing something wrong.
How other people feel and act is completely out of your control.
Dude. Move on. You can control you. That’s it.
Its pretty much par for the course, you need to hit new profiles as they pop up and get to meeting asap, the ones who have been on a long time will never get what they are after.
It probably got too real for her to even simply meet, just forget her, if she or anyone else isn’t giving you the time to at least meet then why bother you wasting your time for them.
Don’t beat yourself up, a large majority of people on POF are there to kill time and never actually meet up with anyone! I’ve been on and off POF for years between relationships and the same women are active years at a time. If they haven’t found anyone they’re just there to waste time. Move on…
you and i will die alone together.
I checked her profile again and she added a new line. She dislikes being asked out straight away. I think I asked her out too soon. I wish there was a way to contact her so I can apologise to her
It’s pretty common for girls to stop replying at the point you ask them out. A lot of women on this site are either too polite to ignore messages so they respond to you even though they’re not interested, or they’re using the site to boost their self esteem and have no intent dating anyone except a perfect human specimen who’s out of their league.
I’ve done it myself a few time sadly. A couple times a girl has put together a nice first message and I responded even though I knew I had no interest in them. Sometimes they’ll give up when they realize I’m not escalating the conversation, or sometimes they’ll make a move. « So are we ever going to meet up? » At which point I stop responding.