POF : First date after rejoining POF flaked on me, already frustrated.
I came back to POF over a week ago, within a day I started chatting with a woman (I’m a guy fyi), we hit it off really well, even talked on the phone for hours. I dont think I have ever connected that well with some one from a dating site, we have so much in common as far as both interests and personality, so I was very excited to meet her. We also added each other on facebook, and sent pics to each other (not nudes but yeah, we were attracted to each other for sure) flirted alot.
The day we were supposed to meet she cancelled at the last minute and barely texts me anymore. I already feel crushed and I havent even met her yet. I feel like she’s fading on me.
EDIT: She has fully ghosted on me now
I think I broke rule number 1, dont get emotionally invested before meeting irl
By. Arise212
So I might get some backlash for sharing this but two years ago I met a guy on POF and we chatted for a few months and I really liked talking to him. So we made plans to meet and unfortunately it was during finals and although I could have made a greater effort to make time for him, I ended up ghosting him (don’t hate me). I was just under a lot of stress and didn’t feel I had the time during that period. Well, fast forward a year and I get back on POF and same guy messages me to say hello. This time, I made every possible effort to meet because I was weeks from graduation, and I definitely had the time. That was in November and we became official in January and I have been the happiest since! I guess what I was trying to say with this whole thing is to not give up so easy and just tell her to hit you up when she’s not so busy or stressed or whatever the case may be. Hope it doesn’t take a year like I did!
I can tell you now that woman talk to more than a single guy at a time, and most times if a girl ghosts you it’s cause she sees someone else she into more than she is into you.
Welp OP, I’ve been on over a year now and still haven’t received anything close to what you did, so yes it might be frustrating for you but at least you got some type of attention which is more than I got for the whole friggin year.
It really makes me wonder just how it can seem like everyone else out there is somehow easily able to get matches/messages/replies/dates while here I am I’ve followed all the advice and still can never get anything close.
Don’t give up and you got it right don’t become so invested before meeting someone. If you plan on meeting and there’s a few days between keep it light you’ll have plenty to talk about it in person. Unless she’s meeting you at your place then go as heavy as you want.
Just always be overly cautious with online people and always keep your expectations low.
> The day we were supposed to meet she cancelled at the last minute and barely texts me anymore. I already feel crushed and I havent even met her yet. I feel like she’s fading on me.
She is a flake, take is as a giant red flag, thank your stars you dodge a bullet and move on.
Cold feet since she claims to have been married and now divorced, maybe she felt not so into because you made her feel that now it’s real.
Women can be weird just like men, I know that I have been on a few dates everything is good but they ghost.
Unfortunately some people are that way. I would say don’t beg for her to go out, just keep tabs on her, maybe she will come around but move on as well.
Good luck.
Chalk it up to people sucking and move on.
I was talking to a woman on there about a month ago. Looks wise, I’d say she was maybe a 5 – 6/10. I just thought she seemed cool. She played video games. Was into herbals. Looks weren’t really relevant. I was married to a beautiful woman. It got me two outstanding kids and a cheat for a wife. The kids make it worth the hassle for sure, but I digress.
Anyway, we talked for a bit on POF. She was like we should exchange numbers. Great. After a couple of days I ask her to meet up, she agrees. She’s excited. So,we meet and eat. Have a good time. When we are leaving SHE says we should definitely hang out again. She had mentioned how lame ghosting was before and I agreed. So, when she suggested we hang again,I said and watch, I’ll text you tomorrow and you won’t answer. She said NEVER. Adults don’t ghost blah blah blah.
I texted her maybe an hour later, make sure she got home safe. She did. But…….I started seeing Casper. Whatever, maybe it’s late. Next day NOTHING. That evening she’s like work was hectic, I’m sorry. No problem. Hope you have a good night and I’ll talk to you tomorrow? Ok! Never heard from her again.
TL;DR People suck. Take it as her loss and move on!