POF : No Hope For Love
I’m just looking for someone to fall in love with. I took the time an effort to make an original message for everyone I messaged. But I know how the internet works so I messaged hundreds of women expecting only some of them to get back to me and fewer still to work out and get a date with. But I cast such a large net, I got ignored by enough women for the site to app to flag me as a bot or something and black listed my phone number. It’s just depressing. I don’t know how to « go out and find someone », and other dating apps either don’t work or require money. Out of 700ish girls messaged, only 7 got back to me and only 1 looked like I would be able to go out with, then I was banned and lost contact with her. This event caused me to try to take my own life and 3 more times since. I’m just so alone and it seems there’s nothing I can do about it. In the guise of protecting women from predators you are costing men their lives. I have no way to appeal this ban placed upon me by some auto banning bot program. You’re app is named for the saying that’s there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Meaning there’s plenty of opportunity to find love, a saying that is meant to bring hope, yet you have taken that away from me, and left me with none.
By. Zinra60700
I agree, don’t let some dating app and it’s algorithms determine your self worth. The apps are simply tools to connect with people and it’s up to us to make them useful how they need to be for each specific person. If one doesn’t work try another.
Quick question though, in what timeframe did you send these 700 messages? That’s a lot of messages and if it was in a short timeframe, I can see why you were labeled a bot unfortunately.
Lastly, if you are being affected enough by lack of female attention on dating apps, you should really talk to someone. Most likely this is a symptom of a bigger issue. It would be beneficial for you to uncover the root problem with a professional. I hope you find the help you need.
Okay dude. I don’t wanna sound trite, but… Don’t put the pussy on a pedestal. POF is garbage. You’ll get much better traction if you just go out and be social. Apps are killing dating.
Please stop using POF. You are 99% unlikely to ever get anywhere good. All POF has ever done to me is make me feel miserable, depressed. You said it yourself that pof made you suicidal. SO STOP USING PLENTY OF FAKES.
I felt the same. I deleted PoF and joined okcupid. Seems better than pof to me.
Don’t let one app make you lose hope, but 700 messages? What is actually not right with you? Is it your looks or the way the message was taken?
Try other apps but try to not send so many messages, and if you are out in about then try talking or asking someone for their number.
To create a new POF account, you will need a new email and new phone number. In the meantime, use MeetMe. It’s a free app and dating website. Use it to check out women until you can get a new POF account again. And this time, only message a few women each day instead of hundreds of women each day. I know you were just testing it out to see how many responses you could get. And you concluded that only 0.000001% of women will ever reply. And that’s probably never going to change. As for me, I’m lucky if I meet a woman once every 5 years and they have all been whales and they have all had some disturbing personality problems. What keeps me going is porn, checking out women on dating sites, and online female friends that I talk to regularly. To me, dating sites are just a window that I can look out of to see all the various women who are « looking » without having to leave my apartment. I don’t have any higher expectations than that. You need to accept your loneliness and learn to cope with it. Find things to take your mind off of loneliness and depression. For example, I watch around 25 anime shows every season and I’m slowly building a collection of Steam games that I get super cheap (i..e 80-90% off) or free. Hell, I even started pirating dozens of games this week. So these activities keep me happy and entertained, and so even if I never end up with a woman again at least I am not completely miserable. Also, try to make small improvements over time. If you have a terrible physique and you know you don’t have what it takes to get the physique you want in 1-3 years… that’s fine. Then aim to get the physique you want within 15 years. Sure, that is a super long time. But at least in 15 years, you will be happier and love yourself and your life more. I was only working out once ever 3-6 months. Then I decided to just reduce the weight and just start over with lighter weights and work my way up. Then I decided to get rid of my office chair and just sit on my weight bench. That made me more inclined to working out. Then I decided instead of doing 3 sets of 12-15 reps of heavy weights, I’d do 6 sets of 25 reps of lighter weights. Then I figured out that I’m good to work out every 3-4 days, but not every 2 days. Then I realized I needed more sets, so I’m doing double sets of what I normally do, and I’m adding an extra exercise. Basically, I’m making continuous adjustments to figure out what works for me, and then once I do figure out what works for me I slowly crank up the intensity until I produce results. It’s going to take me FOREVER to get where I want, but doing it the « other way » would result in me doing nothing at all and so this is better for me. Also, think about how you spend your money. If you found a girl to date and you just took her out to Wendy’s and bought her $1 presents of cheap makeup from the dollar store, you’d still be spending on average $200 a month to date her. Now imagine taking that money and saving it for something you need like a $500 weight bench. It’s a better investment. So if you have money to throw at women to make them like you, maybe consider spending it on yourself for things that will make you happy or help you self improve. Buy new pots and pans. Get a better vacuum cleaner. Upgrade your couch or bed. Buy a new laptop or computer. You get the idea. And just remember, that no matter how rejected and undesired you feel because of online women, there is always an online friend out there that you can make that can help you get by for the time being. And sure lots of those friends may end up sucking. But you’ll eventually find better ones. And when it is time to cut ties with shit friends, do so. Until you have nothing but good online friends that you talk to regularly that will help take your mind off of not being able to find a female that is into you as you are in her.
Seems like this poster is just here for story telling. First he says that 700 women ignoring him on POF caused him to almost take his life three times in one week. And he blames POF for costing men « their lives ». Then he writes up another story about how he is the most desirable man on the planet and every woman likes him but that they just assume that he is already taken. I’m blocking this moron.
I honestly couldn’t tell you. When I do go out I get bucket loads of compliments from girls, but when I ask for a number or try to plan a date, they all reject me and tell me they’re sure I already have a girlfriend. I’ve tried other apps. One girl on tinder messaged me telling me what she does to herself while looking at my photo. But when I tried to ask her out, turns out she, like almost every girl on earth, had a boyfriend already. I went out to the club and a group of 3 girls wanted to take my picture, saying they wanted to show their boyfriends « how a real man dresses ». It’s uncanny. I go out dancing and every girl will chear me, but none of them will dance with me. It’s like I’m the life of the party but no girl actually wants anything to do with me. That is the worst part, one girl even said « O we know you’re off limits a guy like you must already have a girlfriend ». And when I told her I didn’t she said, « You shouldn’t ruin things with her, I’m not worth that ». So I guess girls just assume I must be taken, which really sucks. It’s like some princess or celebrity laid claim to me and I just don’t know it but everyone else does. Even guys at the clubs ask me where my girlfriend is and if they can meet her. Am I like too confident? Do I just exude that aura of a married man? I don’t know what it is. I’ve even had girls tell me I’m out of their league and when I say I’m not they practically squeal and run off to tell their friends, then they all walk away. It’s maddening. One time a girl at the casino offered to take me to her room and it left me speechless, and she took that as a rejection and when I tried to say yes, she acted like she’s not good enough for me. So I’d really like to know what’s going on.