POF : Patience is a virtue. I finally got lucky on POF.

POF : Patience is a virtue. I finally got lucky on POF.

First of all, I’m not on POF looking for a serious, long-term relationship. And I’m completely upfront and honest about that on my profile on exactly what I am looking for.

I’ve been on POF since around 2005, and I’ve seen it change a lot over the ages. But I never had any luck on it, until around 2012. I met a whale who was going through a rough time. She left her husband on the reservation, and was trying to make it on her own. She was staying at a hotel room, and working telemarketing jobs. We got along pretty well, and we spend a lot of days each week hanging out at my place. Sex was really bad though because I wasn’t attracted enough to her. And she was making a dent in my wallet. And she would act super weird when she was high or drunk. Very neurotic. I don’t know if I needed to be with her at the time or not, but it was probably a good experience for me. I mean a person can only go so many years of being alone.

Then in 2018, I met an even bigger whale that was easily 2-3x bigger than the previous one. I was not at all attracted to her, but she was very outgoing and the kisses and cuddles were amazing. I thought that she was a good person because she got along with everyone so great, but I learned that she was the opposite of good. A really bad person who lies and manipulates. Also a complete basket case. She had a dishwasher and wouldn’t wash her dishes for months. She had easily two dozen bags of trash in her place because she couldn’t be bothered to carry them to the dumpster. And she’s the kind of person who won’t check her mail for three months until the mailman arrives at her door and gets mad at her. I never had sex with her. She did help me get through a rough time when I had a heart attack and thought I only had a few years to live. I was going crazy but the five or so days I spent with her restored my sanity. So I probably needed to meet her.

So since I started using POF back in 2005, I met two women. One that I dated for a few months in 2012, and one that I hanged out with for five days in 2018.

Until recently. I never get responses to my emails. And I never get first messages from women. Until last week, someone messaged me. I had been checking out her profile multiple times a day, every day, for weeks. But I never messaged her because I didn’t think anything good would come from it. Also, I have « this person viewed you » disabled so no one knows when I view them. She started off with a « Hey there 🙂 » message, but this was the first one that I got where I didn’t think she was a bot. I knew she was real. I always try to talk to women on Facebook, so I got her to switch to that platform and we talked on there. There is a long list of things that I like about her (90% of which are probably not physical). I could write a few chapters on all the things I like about her. She’s definitely attractive. She’s petite everywhere. Only 5’4″. Petite head, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, legs, butt, youknowwhat, etc. She has a few lbs on her tummy but it isn’t big. And she has an nice chest. Small D’s. Her voice is nice, and I like how she talks. And I won’t get into all the other details of what I liked. But for two weeks before she messaged me, I was at a really low depression where I didn’t feel like doing anything productive because I felt like « what’s the point? » And now I don’t feel like that anymore. Even after we met and made out and had sex, we are still good friends and are still talking to each other and will probably meet again. I’m not sensing any emotional instability from her, and I doubt she will put a dent in my wallet. She seems to be and have all the things that I was looking for in a woman. It’s like God answered my prayers. I believe that you can keep telling God over and over what you want and how badly you want it, and he won’t act right away, but if you keep trying to take care of yourself and keep doing what you need to do, he will remember that prayer and then he will fulfill your wish. I think that is what happened to me. Also, I want to say she is like 75% Native American, and I thought that was cool because I’ve never been with a Native American before.

So what I’m trying to say is that I spent the first **7 years** on POF with no luck. Then I met someone in 2012 and it lasted three months. Then I went without for another **6 years**. Then I only spent five days with someone and I didn’t like them at all. Then I went without for another **1.5 years**. And then I finally got lucky. Patience pays off. You just have to suffer the loneliness and depression and lack of success. Because it’s like that saying « if you want rainbows, you have to tolerate the rain ». So if your luck is as bad as mine, go ahead and suffer the rain for 5-7 years. Eventually the rainbow will come out.

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