POF : Please don’t read if you’re a POF Fan

POF : Please don’t read if you’re a POF Fan

I’d like to sue POF because they hooked my friend up with a girl who has essentially caused my best friend to lose her job, our friendship, her home, and her relationship with family members. This all starts in late April, early May. I had just returned home from Houston and I live in Dallas. My friend called me several times while I was in Houston. We talked quite a bit. Maybe I should have know something was wrong when she wanted a rushed BFF relationship with me and I wanted us to get to know each other a bit before becoming best friends. We did speak daily, and I had spoken to her family. I had plans to visit my friend this month but due to POF my friend will either be homeless, living in an abusive relationship, or embarrassed to talk to me because she kept this a secret. I wouldn’t have cared that she was using POF. She told me she was bisexual but it seemed like she had more of an inclination for women. Anyhow, two days after I return back from Houston I call her and ask her what she had done that day. Instead of being honest, she told me she took a two hour drive because the weather was so beautiful. Truthfully she met two women on POF. One girl didn’t make the cut and she fell in love with the other girl, immediately. I was extremely concerned. A day later I get a Facebook request from my friend and it shows that she is in a relationship. A relationship that as her “ best friend,” I know nothing about. I click on the other girl’s account and there is a split screen of them, stating that they are in love. This story is long, so let me shorten it. My so called best friend tells me she will be with this girl for three days and insinuates that I shouldn’t speak to her until May 5th. Once I hadn’t heard from her until 9:00 p.m. on May 5th, I called her phone. She was out of her state. She had literally gotten into a car with a complete stranger and driven five hours away in her own car because of course this girl has no vehicle. I speak to my best friend who tells me this girl is highly jealous of me. Why? I am straight and engaged to a man? I speak to my friend and tell her to go home. The next morning I get a call from her asking me for gas money to get home. I was fine giving her the money. It turns out she didn’t go home and the couple’s whereabouts were unknown. At that point I was talking to her sister and mom and they were both extremely concerned. During the course of my conversation with her sister, I realize my friend has some real problems telling the truth. I truly believe POF is made for individuals who want immediate love and adoration and the majority of us know a relationship takes time and work. I now wonder if my best friend told her new girlfriend that we had a romantic thing going on because I don’t understand the jealousy. Anyhow, I haven’t heard from my best friend, who promised never to abandon our friendship,in two weeks. The last I heard the couple was living in my friend’s car, neither girl has a working cell phone or money for food or gas. My best friend took her cat along and I have no clue how long you can keep a cat in a car. These sites can be toxic for individuals with mental health issues. I believe my friend is bipolar and went through a manic cycle and ended up in this predicament. Of course she has hurt me and ruined our friendship and this isn’t what a loving relationship looks like at all. The police have been involved and at some point I’d like to ask my friend why she never cared about my opinion, and why she lied to me? She was the sweetest person I had ever known and finding out this affair over POF meant more than friends, family, her jobs/bills and ability to care for herself, blows me away. The other thing I’d like to state is that my friend is on psych meds that she doesn’t have with her. If this partner cared so much about my friend, wouldn’t she want her to have her medication? POF should be removed from the internet.

By. KatietheLAlady