POF : POF isn’t horrible. But the people on it are.
I have talked to a few guys on there, like 5% of the guys messaging me are decent, and have even made a few friends.
The problem lies in how I’m being approached. I’m not a bot. I’m a real woman. I don’t want to be called ‘Sexy’ in your first greeting. I’m a person, not a slab of meat. And the last guy I had a decent conversation with and I gave my number to… started masturbating on the phone in the middle of the conversation.
By. SkittlesRTasty
I met a few women that I ended up falling for hard, one broke my heart over a year ago and I haven’t been the same since. One I really loved but ended up beating her kid in front of me and that was a red line. Now I just don’t have it in me emotionally.
All but 1 of the women on pof that have messaged me on pof have been fake/ bots.
I have been on the app for 6 months.
100% of the « meet me » notifications i have received are from trolls or bots trying to get people to look up there website.
So as a guy that might question wether or not you’re real sorry but, when you get more fake messages than real ones you start questining all profiles.
I seriously hate this app.
Of all the apps and things I’ve used, POF was the most… peculiar, I’d say.
Met some interesting guys there, right up until I said I wasn’t going to send them nudes/sext, etc. Then I was accused of being an obese man with doritos stained fingers.
There was the guy who said he would track me down, lassoo me, then ride me off into the sunset. That was creepy.
One guy I went out on a date with was very… dissapointed about the fact I did not wear high heels. He was in a pissy mood for the whole date, and said that unless I wore high heels, he would not talk to me anymore.
One guy I went out for drinks with casually forgot to mention his ex works at the bar we went to. She was not happy about it, but the guy was pretty satisfied watching the world burn right before his eyes.
Did meet some okay people, but nothing that evolved more than idle/casual conversation now and then. Also got a gaming buddy out of that site.
POF isn’t that bad, you have to give it a shot more. When I first signed up for it in 2009 I had horrible people. Including a guy telling me to go F myself. So I finally just said im all set with that, but I persisted and I met a great guy. We only lasted almost 2yrs but it was still a good relationship. I have had more success on that than any other site.
Well, I consider myself a decent guy, and I messaged the hell out of so many women. It’s just discouraging putting in effort and not getting anything.
I’ve also made a few friends and potentially becoming more, but it took too much effort. It’s too bad that there are so many bad apples among the crop. I had one women who seem genuinely interested in a good guy, and she thought I was a good guy, but she had a « feeling » things wouldn’t work out, whatever that means.
I’ve met up with maybe 6/7 different people on PoF and 3 of them were really really big disasters, and in each case it was because of the other person doing something pretty bad. I’m meeting someone else soon and I’ve been really suspicious she’s a bot/troll because of my previous experiences.
I don’t know why guys are being like that with you, it isn’t normal or acceptable behaviour to do things like masturbate during a phone conversation. I had so many women saying inappropriate sex stuff to me that I had to change my profile text to say that wasn’t what I was looking for. With women I don’t get the impression that they’re just horny dogs, I get the feeling that they’re saying what they think guys want to hear, if that makes sense? Don’t get me wrong, I love sex stuff, and I’d really like to be in a relationship with lots of it, but I want to get to know someone as a person first and make sure we like each other and get along.
Only thing I can suggest for you is to change your profile text to make it clear you don’t want that sort of thing?
Not alot of bots in my area but this is me at 2:47
https://youtu.be/96FFApQiXAw
I received some creepy messages from a woman with a foot fetish. That was very strange to say the least…
But overall, my main gripe is that scarcely anybody reads my profile, namely the ‘does not want children’ selection. Due to that, I’ve had to ignore contact from what could’ve been someone interesting because of my niche preference. On the upside, I guess that does mean that my profile photos are presentable.
Still, I did meet a couple of great women who actually took notice of that, but it nothing panned out beyond a couple of dates. And there’s nothing to be gained by deleting my site, so I keep going even though it has meant months of having nobody to contact.
That’s not the site, that’s the human population in general.
I agree. I was so sick of me just being sexual. One after the other. Like would you approach me about sex in person? No. So why here.
I’ve had several woman admit to me they masturbated while talking on the phone with them, as my ex gf told me, that fucking voice of yours was a damn surprise and smooth as hell.
One got mad at me for not sexting or doing phone sex, felt I didn’t find her attractive. Sorry, I’m more into the real thing, she disappears the next day.
I’ve had a few mention to me not being sexual flirting and ask if there is something I don’t find attractive about them. Nope, lets meet a few times before you end up getting bent over my knee and spanked, that would get their attention real quick. LOL
One told me she got turned on with proper spelling and grammar, she wasn’t into education, so go figure.
First date last month after out from a four year relationship, she was great looking, a teacher, divorced, two boys, met for drinks. I was ready to leave but she said she buy my drinks and appetizer. After awhile I figured out she was newly divorced and her ex husband’s buddies showed up to have drinks also. This small town they would mention that they seen her with someone. Made her foot the while tab while I drove off.
When you say you made some friends, does that include FWB?