POF : the classic « juast ask »
so i know this has been asked a bunch of times i’m sure, but i’m strongly debating about messaging profiles with « just ask ». Not because of some pretty face, but sometimes there are profiles of people who put genuine photos that aren’t all snap chat filtered or yoga booty pants photos, or just the upper cleavage half hiding the rest of their body photos.
But they put just ask and note they just aren’t sure what to put.
for me i’ve been in the online dating world for 10 years sadly to admit lol, been in awesome long term relations and been in couple awesome short term ones, been in some toxic ones too. Anyways long story short, i stopped looking up profile advice from people with all these preconceived notions about the climate of dating. Instead i’m just me, if it scares people away so be, but the 2 women i’ve been on dates with due to my extensive profile were the best relations i’ve had. Mostly short lived due to where they planned to live permanently, but i’m still in contact(not dtf, just genuine connections).
it had me wondering what if there was someone who might match me, that i simply said « nope » because they didn’t know how to present themselves due to the strange online dating advice the internet gives.
I know there are the jaded ones who are like « no one reads this anyways » and for me that is a red flag give away that i’m going to have to battle her past exp’s to make any connection.
i’ve never made a short profile before mostly because i’ve always been kind of transparent with who i am and my flaws and interests, kind of came to terms with things before i decided to online date.
I guess i’m wondering if you have made an « ask me » type of profile before and it wasn’t due to being jaded or lazy or superficial nonsense.
male or female replies, doesn’t matter to me. wondering in general
By. minesweeper808
Male, 36 here, and I have replied to the « just ask » ones, and wow, same thing that always happens, no response. I think a lot of profiles were started and just abandoned, and the just ask ones are similar to the others. It’s hard out here for a pimp….ok, not a pimp, but it just doesn’t seem to work.
29 year old woman here, I use to message or message back people with « just ask » on their profile and usually these were the worst interactions. Now I personally don’t and I don’t look at it as I could miss out on someone because I believe you should fill it out if you’re serious. If you can’t do the bare minimum then I’m not interested.
« Just ask » means « look guys, I want a serious relationship, really I do, but my photos truly show the only attractive part of me, so just keep the fuckboys rolling on in so that when I finally decide to fill out the profile, it’s a bunch of negative drama about how I’m not just a piece of ass, but honestly, I really am just a piece of ass. »