POF : What do they want?
Had some luck messaging women. Some responses, but usually no matter what I say, it’s on ‘Read’ forever, ‘Read Deleted’ or I get blocked outright. Girl ‘Viewed and Liked’ me, doesn’t look like a bot. Sent message referring to something in her profile, show interest in something on her profile. Then got blocked. WTF!!!??? I’m not at all desperate or needy, so….WTF!!!?? Even when there is very little to go on from her profile…‘I’m an open book, just ask.’ I did, no response. WTF!!??
I mention something about their profile to start a conversation, NOPE! I try a witty, funny or clever message, NOPE! I try a dad joke, NOPE! Someone please tell me what the hell I’m supposed to say to generate any type of response? And why ‘Like’ then block me when I message first? Does anyone know? If you’re a woman WTF are you looking for? I’m not ugly (at least I don’t think I am), weird or gross, I have a job, a car, I can spell, pretty good bio, can carry on a conversation, write a legible sentence….WTF!!?
By. Litelifer386
From a female friend who is on pof. Her biggest complaint is low effort opening messages like hey how are you? However, you could easily type out aparagraph long message to 100 women and not get a single response. After a while you just give up on effort and say hey what’s up? If they respond cool, if not you only wasted 7 seconds and not 5 minutes
If they viewed you that is meaningless. If they liked you then they may have accidentally liked your picture, or they liked your first picture when they were swiping, but that’s all they liked. When you are swiping through the profile stack to like people all you see is a picture and nothing more. It’s very shallow. After you messaged they needed to take a deeper look and then either they didn’t like the remaining pictures, didn’t like the text content of your profile, or didn’t like your message. Match rates on dating sites are very low and you should lower your expectations.
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Yeh I have not had so much as a 6 line conversation .that’s online man it’s bad
The most luck I’ve had from online dating is when the woman has messaged me first. I’ve had short term and long term relationships from that.
Its sounds like you’re doing the right thing though. I never make any initial message about their looks and find something to ask them about on their profile. Funnily enough most of the relationships I’ve had all started with an initial message from a girl about MY looks lol
Also I tend not to message girls who have a very basic profile and « ask me » as they don’t come across serious about dating in general otherwise they would write a descriptive profile. Good luck!
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The majority of women on there are there for validation and want all the attention they can get. I never say anything more than « hey » when I send a first message. Because these women dont deserve any effort. The women on there have so many options to choose from as well. The ratio is something like 100 men for every 1 woman, so it’s tough. Try Hinge instead, you might have better luck there.