POF : Why ask to meet up after sending first message is wrong.
Honestly, I am getting tired of dudes asking me to meet them up after they send their first message or along with their first message. Like for real dude, I don’t know you that well yet. Sorry I am cautious but stop creepin’. It’s totally creepy, creep!
By. passive-passions
I can understand why you think that is creepy. On the other hand, my experiance as a guy has been mostly women who i think have no intention of meeting ever. They just want some online wierd pen pal thing. They will even message daily asking about how my day was, etc.
I always practice safety when going an OLD dates and guys constantly give me the “I’m not a weirdo why don’t you trust me and let’s go back to your house and cuddle” lines. What do you think a weirdo creepy guy would say on the first date? If a guy doesn’t respect my boundaries and the rules I follow for my children’s and my own safety it’s a huge turn off.
There’s a middle ground. I don’t the first day or maybe even the second, but you inevitably run out of things to talk about fast.
There’s also many women that just want a pen pal. That’s definitely a thing. You just get strung along and time gets wasted.
As mentioned, there’s a middle ground.
Hey that is how I met by guy. He asked me within an hr of talking to me and we are wicked happy.
Could you stop calling men creeps because they don’t fit into your version of dating? It’s just disrespectful to everyone.