POF : Why is POF such garbage
Between the messages that say that I can’t message this person because I don’t meet their criteria, to women blocking me for….who the hell knows what reason, to girls just ignoring my messages (this one is on all dating apps), is pissing me off.
They bitch that there are no good guys out there, but then they don’t even talk to you, or block you. I’m not one of those guys after sex or anything weird. I’m a normal guy just trying to get a date. It’s so damn irritating.
And seriously….let people message everyone. I don’t even know what’s causing me to get the « you can’t message so and so ». I’ve tried changing my age, and other different things and nothing works.
Can’t even go out and talk to women nowadays because of Covid. I love being handcuffed like this in life.
By. Highlander_316
As a woman on pof, I find most men don’t read my profile. I have definite deal breakers that are clearly stated. I get messages from men that obviously are paying no attention. When that happens it feels like this person will ignore our needs if we were in a relationship as well. We have a right, all of us, to want what we want. We are picky. We’ve been in relationships where there were deal breakers and know we were not happy, so now we won’t settle for less. I find pof to have what seems to be a lot of desperate men or scammers. I also do not expect to be a good fit for all men. My advice on any dating app is to look past appearances at first. Read the profile. Do you think you’ll actually be a good fit? What does she want? Are you really that person? If yes, message why you think that and where your commonalities are. Women get tons of messages. You need to set yourself apart by making real conversation. Btw, I closed my pof account because of all this. Okcupid seems better.
POF has become the bottom of the barrel cesspool where the lowest quality women go to just to get attention. None of the women know how to carry a decent conversation besides two word replies and then just completely ignoring. Plus their new cam feature is so cringe, it’s just them smoking a blunt on video while guys message them saying how hot they are and give them some bullshit stickers that they paid money for
I’m a girl and I’m getting the same shit. The one guy that sad he really was interested and I am so beautiful etc we went out to eat once I got a good night kiss and now he doesn’t answer my texts. I get tons of generic ‘how’s your day beautiful?’ And wanting to know what I do for work. I am polite I answer promptly. I’d like to go out not just get two messages. I’m so discouraged too
That is the annoying part. I’ll match with a girl yet it says I can’t message her cuz I don’t match her criteria yet we are a match. The app sucks. I also hate how you can’t search the age you wanna search. You can’t message upgrade users either. Most women on there are fat af. During a pandemic, I expected online dating to rise yet the opposite has happened
Same. I’m middle aged now. Messaged a woman that was fairly local. Same age. Same height. Non smoker. No kids. We both work. Both like to keep active. Pleasant opening introductory message.
Blocked. What the fuck for?
Another replied with something like « I’m just busy at work right now, but thought I’d reply and say hi. » Turns out it’s her way of rejecting.. instead of just say she’s not interested. I called her out on it…and her reply was « well I haven’t replied, so Id have thought it was obvious » No.. it’s fucking not. Just grow up say you’re not interested, instead of a búllshit vague reply.
But to answer your post… POF itself isn’t garbage. It’s just dating now. Women now think that they’re entitled to anything, that men will bend over backwards and pieces of trash that deserve shit expect to be treated like a queen, when they treat men shit themselves.
I’ve had some good experiences, but really… Just use it as a hook-up site. Most women do that anyway. It doesn’t take much to turn a conversation and get them interested. The trick is to use inuenndo, but cut it short. Don’t persist with it, and end the conversation because you have some things to do. Then come back to it later.