POF : Women of PoF, in your own words, what makes a good first first message?
I know we’re supposed to include something from the profile, but honestly a lot of women leave their profiles pretty sparse. To me, there isn’t much to go on.
Most profiles include a line about their kids and how they are their whole world. A line about their job and thier taste in music. Interests are usualy one or two things and even those are really generic like « music ».
I’ve figured out that mentioning a girl’s physical appearance is a major no no and will garner exactly 0 responces.
Very few mention what they plan to do in the future or what kind of person they’re looking for. So I can only assume they plan to be a wal-mart cashier forever.
So what on Odin’s green earth and I supposed to say? « Hey we both like music. We should hang out some time. » I think not.
By. Aden_Sickle
« You look like you brush your teeth. I too brush my teeth. There is a slim possibility we would get along splendidly. » Was a memorable message sent to me by a guy. Or just ask general questions that you might be curious about: « Do you recycle? » Those usually get responses too.
We may have to wait a while for a response. This is a small and slow sub-reddit. You could always check with /r/okcupid since it’s pretty active and theoretically similar rules would apply.
It’d be nice if there was more activity here though since OKC and PoF each have their own unique quirks.
I like messages that have more than just a simple greeting. I never respond to the ones that are obviously typed up so they can be sent to many people without it being an actual personal message. In all honesty, a touch of humor is the best way to go (to me).
Of the multitude of messages I get the ones I respond to are the ones that ask specific questions or make a comment about soemthing in my profile – be it agreeing, disagreeing or expanding on it.
I don’t bother with the « how are you »s or the « Heys » nor do I bother with ones that are obvious copy/paste or say « hey check my profile and message me back if you are interested » because it is pretty damn obvious that I will be checking your profile even if you didn’t suggest it.
Mind you… I was pretty specific in my profile so maybe the guys have better luck with figuring out what to message me about.