Tinder : Story Time – Week of July 08, 2019
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At 4% what am I even worrying about right
Really had a frustrating one this week. I travel a good bit for work and matched with a cool lady. We went on a fun date when I was in her town, ended with some kissing and heavy touching. We agree to hang out again when I come back to town. We text regularly in between.
Second date comes and we have a good time. She’s a little awkward but has a great body and seems into me. We go back to my hotel. She loves oral and I enjoy giving it. She has several orgasms by tongue in between sex sessions over the night.
We part ways the next day and agree to do it again soon.
Fast forward a week and the text responses have slowed considerably. I mentioned that I would be back in town soon and it’s been 3 days without a response.
I know girls don’t always love an out of town situation, hence my efforts to give her plenty of attention in the bed to make it memorable and repeatable.
I’m wondering if she just didn’t enjoy it. Her physical responses to the tongue work were quite convincing if she wasn’t enjoying it. And if it wasn’t great, why would you allow multiple rounds and spend the night?
I’ve tried to be introspective about what might have happened but didn’t see any red flags in our texts.
It’s tinder, so I guess it’s time to move on, but still confused on this one.
Just had to remove myself from a serious clinger. The texting ratio was way off (daily texts since our first date) and I was getting a lot of texts saying how much she missed me even though we’ve only been on three dates. She was also prying a little too much into my life, always wanting to know where I was going and why I was going there. The final straw, though, was when she found my IG account (I never gave it to her) and started favoriting a bunch of old pics, including pics of my son and I. I’m sure some people don’t mind it, but I’ve been doing a lot of work lately on establishing healthy boundaries and it was just a bit much. She reached out while I was sleeping (I work crazy hours) to say she missed me. Since I was sleeping and couldn’t respond due to not being conscious, she sent another text when she never heard back saying I was obviously very busy these days and she was taking a step back. I’ve taken this opportunity to run for my life. My marriage was co-dependent and I don’t want to repeat that. I wish her well – she’ll find someone.
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Matched with a girl and went out the day after. She was WAY underselling how beautiful she is compared to her profile. Wow. Tall metalhead girl with raven black hair. I felt like we clicked, too. We liked all the same bands, horror movies, etc. We talked about the rigors of dating after divorce and how we’re both taking things slow now. When it was time to go, she remarked how 4 hours just flew by. I walked her to the bus station and she said she’d like to see me again. I felt very much the same – I had fucking hearts in my eyes by the end of the night. Shot her a text a few days ago to set date # 2 up aaaaaaaaaaaand ghosted.
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Not gonna lie – this one fucking hurts. I’ve been dating for a year and a half now and this was the first one I walked out of feeling really, really, really good. I won’t reach out again since I’m guessing she had second thoughts and I’m always cognizant of being a creeper, but I’m taking a Tinder break again. After checking the app yesterday and getting swiped on by the usual posse of dudes with the gender filter, « message me for nudes! », and « I watch Parks and Rec lol », depression kinda hit me. I’ll be back, but if something is bringing me down, it needs to go sit in the corner.
I matched with this girl a few days ago but her profile stood out from the other women I’ve previously matched with.
She was 19, skinny with blonde and brunette hair. Most of her pictures included her riding her horse. In one picture, she had won some sort of horse riding competition — I don’t know, something along the lines of that. I found it quite interesting how she included that as one of the pictures on her profile. She seemed to be very dedicated and interested, if not quite competent, at dealing with horses.
One of the things that particularly stood out was that, despite the accomplishments and the competence she exuded from her profile photos (because, riding a horse with a gold medal around your neck makes anyone look competent as hell), I honestly could feel something was abit *off*. Like there was some sadness there.
An interesting picture she had that caught my eye was a picture of her riding her horse, wearing professional uniform and a picture taken at an angle with the background blurred. It looked quite professional and important.
I could still feel there was some sadness there and I’m not sure what it was. Maybe it was the fact that in all her photographs, they seemed to be more accomplishment and achievement orientated, rather than flirty or promiscuous. This tells me that she wasn’t looking for the type of validation a tinder thot would want. So I thought to myself « Maybe she is really looking to meet an interesting person here ». I read her bio, which was « give me another reason to delete Tinder ». That’s it. Again, I wasn’t quite sure what to make with all these confusing signals but I had a strong gut feeling she was feeling off.
So I messaged her a reason to delete Tinder. I told her she should delete tinder if it begins to have a negative impact on her mental health, because a young and bright woman like herself does not need validation from random internet strangers. I know it sounds corny as shit in retrospect, but I had a feeling it’s something she really needed to hear.
A few seconds later, the chat bubble icon appears on my screen, indicating she is typing a response.
I thought « Fuck, that was a corny thing to type. I should ask her for nudes next to seem normal ».
But that bubble icon kept pausing and stopping. She was typing and stopping, and this went on for quite a few minutes. I left my phone for abit then came back to a notification, after about 12 minutes at this point.
I click the notification, which opens up her profile.
Except it doesn’t. I am redirected to Tinder’s main screen again. I look through my matches and she’s not there anymore.
Did I give her a reason to get off Tinder and tell her what she needed to hear, or did she think I’m some kind of fucking weirdo and unmatched me?
I’m pretty sure it’s a bit of both. Either way, I’ll never know what that message read and I wish her the best!
I was seeing this guy for probably about three/four weeks or so. We hit it off right away, saw each other every other day and texted almost non stop of the days we didn’t see each other. (He even said he deleted tinder!)
Given, I will admit, there were a few red flags here and there, but I just chalked it up to him being nervous (as he mentioned a few times).
Long story short, yesterday he tells me he has a daughter (which is fine), but it’s the fact that he was so dishonest from the beginning (there were multiple things). When I talked to him about it and obviously didn’t have the reaction he wanted, he tried to back pedal and said this whole conversation was an elaborate joke LOL
Oh boy did I laugh – anyways I’m back on tinder. Wish me luck!
Pathetically noobie question but…I’m talking to a match. She recently changed her bio to say she’s not looking for sex. I ask her what she’s looking for on here then and she says she doesn’t know, she just wants to meet new people. We’re gonna meet on Saturday so I ask her « then is this Saturday a date? » and she replies « If that’s what you want to call it, I don’t mind. »
So my two questions are…what do I reply to that? And how should I go about things come Saturday?
It worked y’all. I’ve found a girl that is fucking incredible, and we’ve both deactivated our accounts and deleted our apps. I’m over the fucking moon for this girl, and somehow she’s the same with me. Going out/staying together 3-4 nights a week right now. I’m still pretty blown away hahaha.
Edit: she’s coming over this weekend and I’m going to cook for her for the first time and I’m on like pins and needles. I’m a pretty fucking good cook and I’m like crazy excited to share that with her. The sex is great, but sharing hobbies and just getting to know her is almost better.
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Menu:
Mussels Normandy style with fresh crusty bread
fresh handmade linguini in a lemon caper sauce with grilled scallops
Grilled Brussels sprouts tossed in a spicy local honey vinaigrette dusted with fennel pollen
Meyer lemon creme brulee to finish
Has anybody ever slept with someone WAY older than them? This 50 year old (quite attractive) is laying it on quite thick, but I don’t know how I’d feel going out to a bar with her.
Hmmm.. so I finally experienced getting catfished.. in a way. The girl I matched with on tinder from a couple weeks ago looked quite cute in her photos. We met for tacos yesterday…. and to be honest, she didn’t really look at all like she did on her profile. Had a nice time and all that.. she’s a very nice gal. I don’t want to ghost her, that’d be a dick move on my end. We had a few things in common, but I just didn’t feel anything ( and this is the first time I’ve noticed something like this ). Kinda feel like a dick for when I have to tell her.. no idea why. How should I be nice about it.
Just something random. The pullout method is quite effective when used correctly, right?
So need some advice I guess so using a throw away account as I know he reddits.
Met this guy on Tinder, he superliked me and instantly we had similar interest and our conversation just flowed. He lived in the next town, so about a 30 minute drive and I early 30s and he is nearly 40. Changed over the messenger, same thing just easy conversation. We ended up going on 3 dates and also met twice for some fun in his car (we both live with our families so its hard to do anything). I felt like we really clicked and had great sexual chemistry.
He then tells me someone from his past has come back into the picture and is taking himself of the market but still wants to be friends. So he dates this girls for a few weeks, meanwhile we still talk everyday and see each other at-least once a week as he was helping me with issues with my car. He tells me that he wishes we could kiss and have some fun.
They break up about 2 weeks later (hes nearly 40 and she was 25 so was never really going to work). So this week I’m over his house getting my car looked at and I suggest that we maybe have some fun because his family isn’t home and has the house to himself, plus single life. He says he doesn’t want me to feel like I have to because he’s helping me. I said that’s not what it is and he said that’s how he would feel and gave me a pat on the back. We still continue to talk every day although he takes longer to respond now. Have organized to see each other next week.
So my question is have I been friend zoned (as much as I hate that term)?
I just had my first non sexual date in like 8 months even since i got back on tinder and being in a relationship (also found on tinder) that was only about chilling together and getting to know eachother, I was shitting my pants for a while knowing this was the only thing we’re going to do but I sucked it up and boosted my confidence up within myself and got through with it, was extra nervous since ive known who the girl is for several years and always been interested in her.
We cuddled for a bit in the couch and I managed to end it with a kiss and had a really fun time watching some tv with good conversation, even tho she seemed to kind of treat me as a friend but that might be me overanalyzing, not trying to get my hopes up but damn it felt good afterwards and she was really funny and seems warmhearted, extremely hot too.
Sadly she’s going away during the weekend probably partying until monday which sucks cus she seems a bit like the wild party chick, hangs out with mostly guys too which she said herswlf which also is kinda meh, I really hope she wants to meet me up with me again tho.
Wow I haven’t posted here in awhile but I’m needing advice.
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I recently ended things with a dude who I was seeing casually and now am back on my tinder bullshit and I’m seeing that some things just don’t change. Regularly I find that I will match with dudes who seem really cool and we have good convos but at some point (usually once we have switched to texting/snapchat/planning a date) they’ll bring up social anxiety or nerves or insecurity or something of that nature that really just turns me off from wanting to go out with them. Anyone else experience this or have any suggestions as to what the next move should be after this happens? I want to be understanding but I also don’t want to be talking about all of this over text 7 hours after we match.
Hey y’all, didn’t wanna start a new thread but this is a question I wanted some help with. I’ve been permabanned from Tinder, no idea why. If I use a new phone number with a new Google Play account and a new Facebook associated with it, will I be able to create a new Tinder account?
Not sure if anyone noticed this (especially girls) but its hard to get continuous dates if you don’t give any action on the first date. I noticed that for my last 10 dates or so, I never got a second date. I used to have no problem with guys who constantly hit me up and wanted to go out after the first date. And I didn’t gain any weight or look different. But I used to let guys go to 2nd or 3rd date on the first date but now its just hugs and a kiss on the first date and no one is interested after anymore. They’ll be super into me during the date and really want to spend time with me and continue the date but then ghost me the next week. Anyone else experience this?
Been going through your awesome stories here folks! Wondering why no girl from Tinder ever invites me to their home :s
I am new to the game, so my theoretical understanding is :
Put up a killer profile >> Get Matches >> Start convo with something perosnal/witty >> get insta/phone in 4-5 messages >> Call/Text? >> Fix a date >> Take it from there
Enlighten me on where I am missing out!
Also, how do you go about deciding when to call her? Is it the obvious next step after you get the math (phone number)?
P.S. I am a lil old school inherently, so not usually very flirt-y till I get comfortable with someone. prob a dealbreaker in 2019.
Cheers
So I matched with this girl. She’s pretty, and we clicked. She gave me her number and we talked for 2 hours till 2 A.M. In the morning I sent her a text but she left me on seen. It’s been 2 days since. She’s been watching my Instagram stories but she didn’t reply.
So the question is, should I send her another text, or just move on? I kinda like her, but I don’t want to come off as clingy.
Back again to talk about the lawyer guy from last week. After I left his house on Friday, he suggested I come back to hang out again over the weekend. I already had a scheduled date with a different guy (25/M) on Saturday, so I suggested Sunday.
Saturday I actually had a pretty good time with the other guy since I went on two other dates with him before, but after meeting this new guy, I’m not into him as much as I was before. Won’t focus on him on this post though. So Sunday comes around and I go over around 3PM. It was a good day, as we spent it swimming in his pool, had sex, took his dog for a walk, went out to eat, then drove to the river to watch the sunset. Went back to his house and watched a movie. After the movie finished, he asked me if I was going to stay the night as it was close to midnight at this point. I wasn’t planning on it since he had work the next day, but ended up staying over after little persuasion haha.
Had sex again, always a good time with him. Although the sex is phenomenal, I actually struggle keeping up with him since he has a lot of stamina and lasts a long time which tends to wear me out, but this time I talked dirty to him and made him cum pretty quickly so definitely will try to use that again if he’s taking a while. Fell asleep pretty quickly after that since we both had a long day. The next morning, he woke up and got ready for work. He gave me a kiss and told me that I can sleep in and leave whenever, but I got up and left when he did. Texted him a bit about the movie we watched and told him I had a good time and would like to do it again and left it at that.
Fast forward to yesterday and I found out one of my favorite bands is coming to play across the border in Canada. We live in a city bordering Canada and it’s common for people to go back and forth for work or a night out. Shoot him a text saying that the band is playing that night and if he is down to go and offer to buy our tickets. I figured if he wasn’t then I’d just go solo. He’s a fan too, although not as big as I am since he just knows their most popular songs. It’s a Tuesday night, but my apartment is a 10 min drive from where he works so I told him he can stay over after the concert so he agrees. Concert was amazing, I might have been a little too excited and embarrassed myself with my terrible singing voice but we both had a good time.
We go back to my place, had some more fun, naked times. After, he asked me to read to him a bit from my favorite book, so I did and he ended up falling asleep. Went to bed and we cuddled a bit before he got ready to go leave for work. As he said bye, he said he’d like to see me again over the weekend.
So at this point, I’m not sure where we stand. I honestly have lost all interest in other guys I was talking to, and I don’t even feel the desire to swipe on the apps anymore. I actually deleted all three from my phone. This guy is super good looking, funny, smart, and we vibe so well. I wasn’t really looking for a relationship before him since I was having fun just casually dating around, but honestly I feel like if he asked me to be his girlfriend I would say yes. I haven’t been in a serious relationship since I broke up with my ex of 6.5 years almost a year ago now. I know that he’s into me too, but the last time we talked about it, he said he’s just going with the flow and doesn’t know what he’s looking for either. When we were crossing the border though, the officer asked how he knew me and he said we were « dating » but idk it’s not like he’d say « oh, I met her from tinder » lol. At the same time, he could’ve just said we were friends.
I’m pretty happy with the current situation though, not looking to rush things since it’s literally only been a week since we met but it’s pretty rare for me to be this interested in a guy. So I’ll just keep having fun with him and see where it goes. Thanks for reading x
So I matched with a girl and messaged her last Friday. She responded later that day and seemed pretty impressed with my starter, but then I didn’t hear from her til late Sunday after that. However, she asked me what I’ve been up to, so I’m assuming she maybe doesn’t go on the app much. Each response she seems interested by asking more questions to keep the conversation going, but the time between responses is sometimes 1-2 days. I’m somewhat new to the app so I don’t know how long to wait between responses and if I should message her again to see how she’s doing since it’s been almost 2 days. She’s one of the few matches that can keep a conversation going and that I would love to get to know even more. So should I wait it out or message again? I figure a lot of people don’t have notifications on and get a lot of messages.
Not a story, but having issues with Hinge. When I first started, I received +50 likes a day and now I’m not receiving any. Is my profile being pushed down the stack? I match and message people but haven’t really “liked” people first yet, so is that fucking me up in terms of the algorithm?
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A girl I’ve been talking to everyday for the past 3 days agreed on meeting up. We’ve gone on webcam together and she replies quickly, which is a beautiful change to what im used to. The day of at 9 am, i confirmed with her the meeting time was 4 pm. we chatted a little and the convo died. We both have to travel about an hour to get to the meeting place. At 3 pm I fb messaged her to confirm shes on her way. it says shes online but she didnt reply. I left work early to get on the train. I then call her and fb message her again. no response but it says shes online. I figure maybe she has no service and is on the train. I get to the location and still no response although shes online. First time this has happened to me when I actually get to the location. I still have her on instagram, facebook and tinder. I sent her a message after it all saying « I’d like to hear your excuse after i left work early just for you not to show »
Matched with this girl last Thursday, she messaged first and we had good conversation but we were both clearly not on the app that often(around 15-20 messages in the same conversation sent over the span of 5 days lol). Opted to get her number so we could talk more actively. First few messages were basic small talk and then she invited me to come to her place and sit by a fire. Ended up having great conversations and listened to music in her room where we found we had the same open tastes when it comes to music. We only made out a bit but kept it at that, left at 1:30AM and was working at 7AM the next day(rip). Saw her again yesterday cuz she had a family bday and wanted a friend cuz she was bored, I’m very easy going so I accepted despite having to meet the whole family(they were a nice bunch!). Fast forward a few hours when everyone is gone, we go to her room and play some video games, we hook up in what was some pretty amazing sex (she has a nice round firm ass despite being really petite), ended up cuddling and spending the night after. Love the vibe we have when hanging out so will definitely be seeing her again! Other than that, I was supposed to go for drinks with another but got ghosted not to my surprise.. lol
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Have yourself a good day!
I matched with this girl on tinder last Friday. I sent the first message and she didn’t reply until Saturday morning. Then I responded to her message Saturday night and we messaged for two hours and she asked if we could hang out the following weekend. I said sure and then started asking me questions about what I wanted to do. So in the spirit of being flirtatious, I responded in that way. She seemed to be fine with it as she reciprocated and eventually we started talking about each others’ sexual experiences and such. Around 1 AM I said I have to go to sleep and she said to message her the next day. I woke up and didn’t open tinder until about 3 PM. By then, she had unmatched me. I was really confused and thought I accidentally unmatched her or something but there’s no way that happened. I have no idea what I did wrong, or if she was just in the mood at the time and then was over it. Trying not to think about it too much.
After a year of tinder, I finally got a hookup. Well not even that, just a blowjob on my couch after the movie. She was kinda awkward throughout the entire time and I didn’t think that she would want to get physical at all. But then as soon as the movie finishes, she gave me a quick kiss and then sucked me to completion. However she didn’t want to have sex.
It’s pretty surprising for me to get a BJ without sex. Has that ever happened on your hookup or date? Where you didn’t have sex but did oral?
Anyway. Doesn’t matter! At least I finally got some action through this app. Hopefully I can see her again.
So I posted earlier about this girl I matched with:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/c8rtki/girls_with_good_banter/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/c8rtki/girls_with_good_banter/)
Anyways we add each other on all the socials (snap, fb, ig) and plan a dinner date but shit kept getting in the way so on sunday night she just sends me her address and asks me to come over. She lives alone in this adorable apartment and we watch one of my favourite films ‘Her’ (spike jonze, 2013). Start on either side of the lounge then eventuay intertwining legs then eventually she says the lounge folds out into a bed so we do that and we’re spooning then I have to go home but she asks to cuddle in her bed so we do that nek min 7 am nosleep good times
Had a date this week so terrible I went home and threw up. Maybe it was my lunch, maybe it was their revolting personality.
Haven’t gotten any matches in a while longer than usual, added a bunch of photos, the panel left of Top Picks says 10+ likes but the matches tab says 3+, seems strange. The Absloute Vodka ad did match with me, so I’ve got that going for me which is nice
Went on third date with girl I met from tinder to an amusement park. (Never had sex with this girl yet, only kissed and asked her out on second date) so after the amusement park brought her behind my high schools portables where it’s pretty private, no cameras. But anyway I left the car on for too long while we were doing the deed and and it ran out of battery..
I admit I felt pretty stupid. Called roadside assistance they wanted 157$, but I heard someone called an Uber and I got jumper cables in my trunk. So called an Uber and gave him 50$ when I should of gave him 20$. But 50 sounded a lot better than 157 at the time.
Anyway that was my story I wanted to share
Not really a story, but could be potentially.. lol
What’s the consensus on super likes?
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I finally had it happen: I got stood up at a date. Matched yesterday, convo went fine and funny, she’s only in town for two more days, so I asked for a date. Today I waited for more than an hour, texted her, no reply.
Well, you can’t always win. Opened up 3 new conversations when I was back home, we’ll see.