Understand and how to communicate by SMS
The SMS, the whatsapp message or even messenger can have a fairly significant impact on our lives, especially depending on our alcohol level, such as “the sms that we send drunk and of which we are ashamed the next day” and then the answers that do not “Tired of people who do not answer text messages” never arrive, and following questions from those around us, it was time to take stock of this type of communication which has taken on great importance in our relationships: SMS.
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First of all, whether we are a man or a woman, we do not interpret text messages in the same way.
(Be careful after reading what will follow some men were stunned for a few minutes and may never send an SMS again as before):
1. The subliminal message
Indeed, important information, know some people try to see through a simple exclamation point or a comma, a subliminal message.
Well, we still have to come across a person who likes to use punctuation marks. Many of them also pay even more importance to the little words that conclude the text message:
If someone ends their text message with “Biz“,“kisses“,“kisses“,“lots of love“,“tender kisses » or « I kiss you“.
For some, it doesn’t mean the same thing at all.
For example the “biz“,“kisses“, Are often sent to friends. While the « lots of love » or « I kiss you”Will be more intended for much more emotional feelings.
Yet some people send “Kisses” quite easily even to people they barely know.
But before asking all these questions, you must have already had the chance to receive this famous sms, and try to interpret for what purpose and what intention, it was sent.
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Because the sms is practical, it can be sent discreetly, in many circumstances and above all helps you easily get rid of messy situations:
2. The loose sms
This one is often the author of assholes or assholes. Very thoughtful message, it corresponds for example to:
” You are a great girl
you will surely find a good guy
but I prefer to end our relationship.
You don’t deserve me.
Good luck for the future, I kiss you “.
It’s brief, short, concise, everything is there, it does not call for an answer, leaves you “béa” several minutes and at least the author is sure not to put up with your crisis of hysteria or any other demonstration of hatred against him / her.
He is just pathetic.
3. The sms forgotten
This one has the gift of annoying at the highest point and it can also be part of the big package of ghosting.
What could be more annoying than sending an SMS, having the acknowledgment of receipt and waiting a few hours to see a few days for an answer to finally tell yourself that this one will never have one.
Some people will tell you that there are text messages that do not wait for answers because there are no questions.
Yes, but when there is at least one question, out of politeness for the person who took the time to write it, an answer is necessary, right?
4. The “false joy” sms, ie the advertising sms
After posting your “sms forgotten“, You’ve been waiting for this famous answer for a few days…
When suddenly the SMS ringtone of your cell phone rings. Like crazy you hurry to open it.
But you discover with dismay that it is only an advertising sms.
5. The “sent drunk” sms
This one is well known to any self-respecting party animal, you are too drunk to call, you’ve been thinking about it for a week or so and dying to call him / her back.
Drunk as you wish, therefore disenfranchised just enough to forget all values and principles (which would remind you not to send that damn sms) you do it!
Like : « You know, I remember you in this moment. I care a lot about you. We must see each other again! are you doing tomorrow?”
Luckily the other is in the same condition as you, and it goes a bit like a letter in the mail.
Or else the other does not really understand what is happening to you… and there it is the drama. You are ashamed.
6. The salacious sms (which can also be sent drunk)
Be careful, this one is very subtle (if I may say so), there is a barrier not to be crossed and it is important to know the recipient well! For example : « Just thinking about the idea of licking your big boobs by the pool, I have a hard time. Meet me?”
7. Direct mail sms
This one is the symbol of the abuse of new technologies, follower of lazy people.
Often used for the New Year or for butt shots like: “Where are you, can we see each other tonight?”(Sms that can be sent to 5 guys or girls likely to be present that evening…)
8. The blundering sms
The one you send is definitely not the right person:
“Do you know that Paul cheated on Julie with Nathalie?”
And send you the sms to Julie …
or
“I’m not going to invite Coralie to my party, she’s going to get me drunk again”
And send you the sms to Coralie!
Fortunately, among all these critical cases, it remains the most common:
9. The classic sms
The one that we send to confirm, remind, that we send on a daily basis, or to wish a birthday (which is still much less funny than the previous ones mentioned below…).
” Have you thought about bread? ”
” I expect you as planned at 3:30 p.m. at the park”
« Strongly tonight, I love you »
Also know that if you are nostalgic for the paper trail, or if you have received nice text messages that you do not want to lose, for example following a change or theft of your phone.
You can always copy them.
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Conclusion
Also called texting, texting does not always exist in our means of communication. It was in 1993 that he appeared in France, and it’s been almost twenty years since he invaded our daily lives.
Through an SMS (explains Sophie Cadalen, psychoanalyst and author of Invent your relationship, preserve desire on a daily basis ), we first try to:
- maintain the link,
- call him back during the day,
- create a space between oneself and the other which belongs only to the couple, by establishing codes, by calling each other by small names.
But its shape does not allow it to spread.
You can never say everything, it’s true in real life and it’s even truer with texting.
This message cannot be the main vehicle of love, it is a little more, a wink but nothing is as strong as the word. In speech, you have the tone, the voice, which you don’t have in a text message.
So do not hesitate any longer when necessary or even necessary, prefer a call to a text message or even see you when possible. But above all, do not overuse voice messages, especially on whatsapp.
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Cf: illustration in the article is by Pénélope Bagieu that you will find in her excellent book “My life is completely fascinating”.
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