What are the 5 mistakes you shouldn’t make with a man ?!
When we want to conquer the heart of a man, we must apply the most effective methods according to his situation and especially put aside the faults that scare men away, even if they may, at first glance, not appear as negative as that. We think to seduce but in reality we act in the wrong way and that can sometimes push his man to break up or to take distance. When you have just got into a relationship, it is necessary to perfectly manage the transition between seduction and life as a couple, and therefore there are acts that you must strictly avoid performing under penalty of losing your man. or to make him angry and therefore to provoke tension.
When you want to move forward in your seduction or in your relationship if you have managed to get closer to him, there are behaviors that are to be avoided but not only to please him. It is also to help you appreciate your daily life, not to ask yourself a thousand and one questions because that is exactly what would happen if it happened today. You are afraid of making a mistake, you are afraid that he will not react as you expected, you care about him and you do not want to spoil what can turn out to be a great story.
You are looking for solutions and this is a great thing, it proves that you can move forward and that you do not plan to hold on to your gains. But at this point, you need to apply relevant advice and not just settle for simple research. Moreover, if you need personalized help, you can perfectly go through personalized coaching in love life.
Why do some mistakes scare people away?
If you’re having trouble settling into a healthy, stable relationship, some of your mistakes are likely to cause men to run away. With a man, you have to know how to do it! Indeed, love and men, these are two very complicated words to coordinate … But, why do men flee love with you? This is the answer to which you will have to find an answer and I will guide you below in order to have a perfect understanding of the expectations of men.
For at all costs avoid pushing a man away and to take away from it any desire to settle down and build with you, it is absolutely necessary to know the faults which make men flee. If you want to succeed in putting a man in your loved one and rather than pushing him away to attract him to the highest point, you have to understand men so as not to scare them away.
Not to please men does not mean that you are ugly or repulsive or even that your character or personality is unattractive. It may be too many mistakes that you make that are making run away from a man, but you do not realize it because you do not see where the evil is.
Men, despite appearances and their strong, macho or even callous side, are in fact afraid of love. Indeed, they have fear of becoming attached and suffering or even sometimes falling into a form of emotional dependence. This is the main cause that can cause them to act cowardly with a woman. The man tends to run away from the woman he likes because he is afraid of becoming too attached and of being heartbroken. Suddenly, as soon as he feels that the relationship is getting a little too serious and pleasant, he has a tendency to flee to protect himself from any more intense suffering. It is a form of negative anticipation.
The fragility, which men try to hide deep within themselves, pushes them to flee from love and the woman they like the most. It is well known that woman is man’s greatest weakness, which is why if he run away from love, it is in order to protect oneself.
Another point that makes run away from a man is the fact that a woman is too enterprising! If you have a tendency to want to manage everything, to want to control everything and limit your man to no longer really feel like the man for the job, like the powerful man who protects you, you will trample on his ego and his confidence. in him.
Mistakes not to make with a man are still quite simple. In particular, the man must have a minimum of space to meet alone or with his friends from time to time, that he can have his little secret garden and that he feels strong and able to protect you so that ‘he can keep his pride and his masculine ego (sometimes perhaps oversized, it must be admitted!).
So, no more blocking your man at home, questioning him about his every move and preventing him from breathing. It is true that when you love a person, you want it for yourself, but all the same, set yourself limits, especially at the beginning of a story!
The 5 most common mistakes not to make with a man
Through my coaching sessions, my workshops and the many conferences that I have been leading since 2007 and the start of my activity as a sentimental coach, I have been able to pinpoint the main mistakes of women in love. There are some that are infrequent and others that come up very often in the behavior of women who are looking for a romantic relationship or who have just started it.
1 / Do not reveal your feelings too early!
A major mistake women tend to make is revealing how they are feeling far too early. Ladies, do not forget that men are often in doubt and that making a commitment and building something risk of scaring him and pushing him away rather than attracting it to you.
So yeah, it’s understandable that you fell in love with it and maybe in your head you’re ready to build something, move in with him and even have kids but he’s up for anything. that? Love of men is hard to understand and their fear of commitment too, which is why you need to think before you reveal yourself.
He likes you, he likes you and there is no doubt about it … But declaring your love and your love to him at the end of the first evening, the first week or even the first month and talking to him about children, isn’t it? too quickly and rushing?
When you’re good with a guy, you don’t have to rush things! Allow time to act before revealing yourself and declaring your love to him. Maybe if you wait long enough, it will reveal itself before you have to take the first step! Yes it happens, I assure you …
Either way, disclosing your feelings too soon may scare him and scare him away, that’s why you need to control your feelings and manage your emotions so that you don’t get carried away too quickly and push the one you particularly love to run away.
2 / The fear of men that a woman wants to control everything!
Ladies know that no man likes to be continuously monitored, he needs to have his secret garden with a little privacy, just like you do. If you follow my philosophy you will notice that there are many points in common because before the distinction between men and women, it is also necessary to take into account the fact that each individual is different.
So avoid controlling everything, picking up his phone every time he receives messages or calls, rummaging through his things when he turns his back or even giving him fits of jealousy at any time without a valid reason. You have to learn to trust him just as he trusts you, especially at the beginning because if you pass for an intrusive woman you risk quickly pushing him to take some distance. It is not about to show oneself but quite simply to put actions in place.
In the same vein, you must avoid forbidding him to go out with his friends, he needs space but be careful that does not mean that he does not like you and that he questions everything. Ditto when you’re in a company, don’t act like your mother might! For example, if during a restaurant outing with mutual friends, your man decides to have a small glass of beer and you forbid him, he will have the feeling of being treated like a child.
Avoid having attitudes that could make him uncomfortable in public such as speaking loudly, being vulgar or having tantrums, men hate this kind of attitude and women are more likely to be single are the ones who behave this way. In the same vein, avoid forcing him to watch your favorite soap operas, for example, when he would like to watch his football or tennis match.
Above all, we must not don’t force it to do anything and you should ask him kindly when you tell him to do something. Communication, exchange, compromise are necessary and this as soon as you start to meet.
Don’t be selfish: think of him too
Stop talking about yourself all the time! Your man needs you to listen to him and care about him. You have to be there for him and not just think about yourself. He needs attention, that you cheer him up when he’s bad. In certain circumstances you have to transform yourself and become her best friend, her confidante and help her overcome all her problems as best you can. Contrary to what one might think, a man also needs to talk, he may not do it as much as you do, but that does not prevent the fact that to please him he must be present without being oppressive. Just like it should be for you, don’t think that you have to be the only one to behave like this.
It is all very well to say that a man’s heart is made of stone, I assure you that it is false, of course a man knows how to hide his emotions but that does not mean that he does not need love, on the contrary. Like you, he needs to feel important and appreciated. Above all, do not go and make him great declarations of love that could frighten him because he should not be rushed. Just don’t let him go through difficult times on his own, he needs your support and your presence.
Say stop to the routine
This will probably surprise you, but the majority of men love surprises, they like to be made happy. Routine and the loss of feelings that accompanies it is often one of the causes of a romantic break-up. If all your outings are always in the same place, if you constantly do the same activities and each Sunday afternoon looks like the previous one, or if you always let him take the initiative, you will have a hard time getting him addicted. . It’s mechanical but if you always do the same thing you end up getting bored! If you are not enterprising it may well consider you only as a friend.
Organize a small party in a quiet place where you will find yourself first and foremost and enjoy each other. You have to keep the flame that exists between you burning as long as possible, and this requires that from the start you show yourself to be different from others.
Accept that he’s not perfect
It is necessary appreciate her man for who he is and not for what you would like it to be. We tend to say that the woman wants to change everything in a man to push him to commit. Show whoever is in your sights that they are not and that you are not going to try to change their personality.
If you show him that you care about him, he will quickly realize it and give you all the love you need, but you also have to know how to think about yourself and not necessarily act only for him. I am referring in particular to those who think that …
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