7 signs that he’s taking advantage of you
You sometimes wonder if this man is simply using you, while, on your side, you invest yourself with him. These 7 signs will let you know if he wants to build a relationship or just take advantage of you.
He’s only available when he needs you
When you ask him because you want to go dancing, or just for company, or when you need him for a service, he is always busy. His reasons often seem legitimate: a birthday he had promised to go, an emergency at work, or even a flu … However, when he needs you or just wants you to be there, he knows how to find your number, and suddenly has time to devote to you!
The time he’s able to take for you is also a great indicator: we all have busy schedules, but when you want to build a relationship, you have to give it time. A friend of mine has a wonderful expression for that: he’s a really busy person, but when you ask him to do something, where a lot of people would say, « I don’t have time to take care of. that « , he said » » I’m going to make time to take care of that ”. This expression says wonderfully what happens when you give importance to someone in your life. You make time for her, you reserve sanctuary time slots for her, you organize yourself, you make choices, you postpone other occupations.
Finally, this inability to make oneself available reveals thathe doesn’t take your emotions into consideration : when a person you love or appreciate has a practical concern, or a difficult moment and a need for presence, you free yourself for them.
It’s always you who pays and takes care of everything
Being invited to a restaurant by your man is very pleasant, and offering him dinner is too. The problem always lies in the excess, in the systematic aspect of a practice. If you are the one who pays all the outings, or even all the bills, this is obviously not normal. Of course, I put aside the difficult times when mutual aid is required in a couple. Helping out her man is a gesture of love, and there is nothing wrong with that. The problem exists if he turns out to be materially dependent, not only financially, but also in the organization of his life in general.. He’s a man you deserve, not a big lazy kid looking for a second mom to provide for her.
He blames you for his failures
This man cannot show any material need for you, and yet use you in another way. If he makes you responsible for what he doesn’t do or what he fails, that’s another way to take advantage of you. He needs you to take on the responsibilities he doesn’t. He uses you as an alibi to discard his mediocrity. This is not your role! As an ambitious and loving woman, you should be the muse and support of a brave man, not the scapegoat of a looser!
You only see each other in the evening
All the appointments he gives you are invariably in the evening, and without necessarily going through the box left to two before landing in one of your two apartments. On weekends, he is not available for brunch or to visit a museum, but in the evening, and often out of the blue, he wants you to see each other. At the very beginning of a relationship, that’s okay, but over time, if you’re only allowed on dates in the evening, your relationship will never change. put you in the « easy girl » box which he can use for purely sexual needs.
Another indicator to show you that you have no other role in his eyes: the time of his messages and calls. A call or message after 11 p.m. is a booty call, 9 times out of 10, and if there is no interaction, or very little, at other times of the day, it is because he is not looking for anything from you other than sex.
He doesn’t show up with you in public and doesn’t introduce you
You always see yourself at one or the other, or if sometimes you go out, it’s only two, and never in places that he usually frequents and where everyone knows him. He does not introduce you to anyone, his friends, his colleagues, and even less his family. At the start of a relationship, and even sometimes in the first few months, it’s perfectly normal, and it’s even rather healthy to build your relationship first. However, if after a while you still haven’t been introduced to anyone, or only acquaintances outside of his inner circle, this man is using you. and don’t plan on giving you anything, not even a place in her life.
He is not curious about your life, your history, and your interests
Does this man ask you questions about your childhood, your passions, your projects? When you talk about it spontaneously, does he really listen to you? Do you have the impression that he remembers what you confide in him? If not, it’s not just your conversations that don’t interest him: it’s you. What you tell her is not gossip, it is who you are. If he seems absent when you talk to him about yourself and do not bounce back from what you say to him, if he never asks you a question, it is because you only interest him for the satisfaction of his personal interests.
Your little inner voice tells you that something is wrong
If you are reading this article, you have the feeling that something is wrong. Your little voice, your intuition, or even your body told you that you were out of place in this relationship. Indeed, your heart can guide you to a man who does not suit you, but for whom you cannot stifle your feelings. Your head can offer you bad arguments to stay with him. But your body is always telling you the truth. You have a knot in your stomach, you have a headache, you are cold… so many ways in which your body reveals to you the psychic discomfort that you do not want to see. Likewise, your intuition continues to speak to you when your reason resigns.
Whatever happens, stay tuned to your intuition, and respect it to better meet your needs. If the man you love does not know what to receive, give him nothing more. You deserve to be pampered up to what you can offer.
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