Dating : Her heart was a secret garden, and her walls were very high.

“I’m tired of players.”

Ladies, you’ve probably heard this before, or you may have said it yourself. Dating man after man, hoping for the best. Being led on by someone who actually seems to want to know your soul. He treats you like a queen for the first few dates, only to leave you confused, dealing with ignored texts, closed answers, and the eventual realisation that he’s over it.

The feeling stings, and you find yourself debilitated with tears on your pillow, thinking “what’s wrong with me?” “I’m so over love.”

Seriously though, think about it. Was it really “love” that broke you, or was it attachment and infatuation? Did he really just “play” you? Or did you allow yourself to be played by devoting your heart to someone who was still unsure to love you back?

You can’t blame “players” all the time. Being played is also a reflection on you. Why would you give someone that power, and allow them to dictate your happiness and your sense of self-worth? Have self-respect and dignity, and don’t give your heart away so easily. Save the “L” word for someone who says fxck yes I want you forever.

Don’t give up on love, but take control, stay strong, and don’t allow yourself to be “played”.