Dating : A gay man is interested in me and keeps asking me out
I’m straight, and he knows. but I think he’s trying to convert me lol
I don’t want to ghost the guy or anything. He’s always asking me to come over to his apartment. Like everyday .
I’m running out of lies . Plus we live in the same area .
Um, you don’t want to ghost him? Okay, then say, “I’m no longer going to contact you or respond to contact from you because you’ve repeatedly ignored the boundaries I’ve established in our friendship.”
There. Now it’s not “ghosting.”
Have you ever liked a girl who just wasn’t into you?
Have you ever been ghosted yourself? Did you say to yourself, “gee i wish she just… instead of ghosting me”
As Gandhi said, be the change you want to see in the world. If you’re not into this guy just say, sorry dude just in case you’re wondering I’m confident in my sexuality and I’m not into guys. I’m willing to be friends but not if you’re hiring on me.”
A compromise: let him suck you off and THEN ghost him.
Stop lying to him and tell him straight in the eyes, “please stop bothering me. I’m straight. You’re a Really likable guy, but I’m not gay. Sorry.”
That’s just it. You HAVE to tell the truth.
Sounds like deep down u really wanna give up ur butt to him
What the? Say no, tell the guy to f__ off if you need to, defend yourself if he gets physical and go on with your life.
What’s the big problem?
Nope.Tell him you aren’t interested.Never do something you don’t want to.
Just say, “Hey man, I’m straight”
I think you enjoy the attention. If you told him you’re straight and not interested, well then that’s the end of it.
Dont wanna ghost? Then you must be kinda interested
If you don’t wanna ghost then the offer but be tempting a bit
Obviously you are curious or somewhat interested or you wouldn’t have taken time out of your day to write this…
Tell him to fuck off, simply. It always works. Take it from this gay.
Tell him no.
I have a friend, and when we first met, he assumed that I was bi, like him. He kept on coming on to me, and asking me if I wanted to sleep with him, or just let him blow me. I repeatedly said, « No, thank you. I am straight ». This went on a couple of more times, until I finally had to get a little ugly. I had to get up form the table and loudly tell him to shut his fucking mouth. In a crowded coffeeshop. I am straight. I do not want to sleep with you, or let you blow me. It was the only way he understood.
Just reversing your situation… I’m a hetero male, if I constantly hassle a chick, it’s harassment.. I don’t understand what you’re missing here..
I get this a lot, I have that I do tattoos on the side on most of my dating app profiles and despite my profile also saying I’m straight, it still leads to a lot of gay dudes trying the « hey I saw you do tattoos would you do one here I can’t get anyone else to do it » and then sending me a dick pic move. you really have to tell most of them to fuck off and ghost them or they will think you’re on the fence and might just fuck them if they catch you at the right moment or something, a lot of people are socially retarded and don’t get that just cuz someone isn’t a dick to them doesn’t mean they want to sleep with them, so you are kind of forced to be a dick in that situation. I mean just look at the amount of comments on here saying they think your’e gay or you wouldn’t tell him to fuck off, that guys thinking the same thing because he’s as socially retarded as your average reddit user. And you’re not actually being nice to him by not being a dick because he’s also wasting his time chasing you.
I think the other party being rude makes them an exception to the « anti-ghosting » rule.
For example, if somebody harshly insulted you on a date, you are free to ghost them. If somebody got violent with you on a date, you are free to ghost them.
I think « knowing of but ignoring your orientation or relationship status » qualifies as sufficient rudeness to warrant ghosting.
If this were a post by a lesbian woman complaining of a straight man repeatedly hitting on her and trying to « convert » her, I would also say that she should feel no guilt in ghosting the guy. This is no different.