Dating : I don’t think it’s a conversation I have.

I don’t think it’s a conversation I have. Personally I think whoever can should pay, but if you’re not going conventional, then maybe you should have that conversation. They’re some of my girlfriend I go out with that I pay the Bills, some pay the bills without flinching. And some just bring their part of the fare and pay theirs and I don’t rate any of them less than the other. We all have different orientation/backgrounds and I don’t let that affect the friendship. But I won’t go out with a guy and start dragging who should pay despite being a feminist. That’s not the feminist battle I signed up for. I’m confident in the fact that I CAN pay my Bills but I won’t drag or argue when someone else wants to pay for me. Dragging will be me trying to prove a point that’s not necessary. We should be confident in knowing who we are and understanding that as women, allowing someone take care of you doesn’t make you less (of a feminist) and taking care of someone too doesn’t make you cheap. You just have to find a balance…

If the man wants to split the bill, it’s fine. But that takes thought, and for you to put in that kind of thought in a date, either 1st, second or last, shows you’re really not into that person. Whatever you love you give and when you’re giving, you’re not counting. You just give… this is on both parties. As humans, we’re all broken by societal expectations, we expect people to do this and that and that’s not wrong, but we should be open to learning, evolving, doing things differently, and ultimately growing to be less stressed and also stress other people less.

Thank you.