Dating : OK, so I just like to take a moment to address a few things.

OK, so I just like to take a moment to address a few things. This is not a forum to shame anyone this is not an opportunity for you to post your “fit life“ or health shame spirals.

Today we are addressing a cultural stigma that still does not benefit anyone. That culture is the “thick girl culture, the I love the BBW boys, the men that love two of us undercover and only inside.“ The men that want, “thick” girls, are the ones looking for an hourglass figure with nice hips and a fat ass and a nice chest. They forget the most full figured women also have stomachs.

I am a plus size woman, I always have been, and yes this has caused me a lot of pain and heartache in my life, but I finally have found me, and I am good with me so please save your pity. Now before people come at me with the fat is not pretty or healthy blah blah blah please just save it and take several seats because WE KNOW. I am a woman that has done just about every diet on the market I’ve hated myself for not looking like the models shoved in our faces on every advertisement known to man. What people don’t know or refuse to understand is there are more factors in play for a lot of women that don’t come down to what we do and do not put in our mouths.

The mental aspect of being a bigger woman and understanding because sure some of us don’t feel worthy or appreciated and some of us don’t like the way that we walk. However, that being said mental capacities won’t necessarily change even with weight loss surgery being skinny won’t guarantee you happiness.

Not address the fuck boys in the room- Too many times nowadays we see girls on social media apps and they put in the time and do the work to get ready for dates, and trust me it’s work and then we get left on read, blocked, etc. These “men” Are the same in that claim to “love” big women or love a “thick” girl, and honestly that’s just bullshit. Yes we all come in different shapes, sizes, colors, whatever we learned that in kindergarten. How about instead of classifying us as “thick women“ or BBW’s, just treat us as a person and with decency if you even know what that is.

Women are emotional, we know that, that hasn’t changed since the beginning of time, and sure we all have our preferences so have them, but instead of putting us on display like oh yeah I like a thick girl just sit back and look at the whole package being presented because we are more than just a chest, an ass and some thighs. we big women know we are worth it, and we do not look too men for our self-worth, satisfaction. Love us for us not for a classification or step aside and sit the fuck down.

Love,

One pissed off “thick” girl