Dating : Signs You’re Dating a Man-Child

You’re probably dating a 13-year-old in a man’s body.

The definition of a man-child.
An adult man who still has the traits of an immature and irresponsible child. He has mommy issues. Whether he lives with his parents or not, it doesn’t matter. He can have his own place and still has an unstable life because of his immature mindset.

The “don’t grow up. It’s a trap.” Is BS in my opinion

Why? It means a woman has to deal with a man who still behaves like a child and refuses to grow up. It cost a woman’s time and energy. She has a job to be his parent and she doesn’t get paid for it. Instead, it makes her exhausted and drains up her energy because she has to deal with a man who acts like a baby even though he is in his 30s who should be mature by now.

He’s a spoiled man who gets offended when he doesn’t get things his own way and he wants his partner to be his mother when he snaps out. How do you know if you’re dating a man child?

He repeats himself all the time and every conversation you have with him is about him and his own life. The conversation you have with him is never new. It’s always about the same thing over and over again. You get bored of hearing about the same crap he has talked about in the last few weeks. When you heard enough about himself and start talking about your life, he stops listening. He doesn’t pay you the attention and instead, he will just do something else while you’re talking, which is disrespectful. He doesn’t care about your life. He cares about his own life and he wants everyone to hear about how “great” his life is.

He is so insecure that he keeps bragging about himself and how everyone loves him and respects him. As if he’s delusional because the truth is he has nobody in his life. His face just shines insecurity and the “I hate myself”. He has dead, empty eyes and he doesn’t like it when people around him are happy, including his own partner. He keeps asking you for your approval when it comes to his choice of style (for example) instead of not giving an F about what other people think of him. He is jealous of people’s happiness and success. He doesn’t believe in his own dreams and purpose in life.

“No one should be happy unless I am happy.” — That’s how he thinks.
It’’s a big problem for him, if you’re happy and confident.

It’s an exhausting job. He doesn’t take the chores. You take his dishes, you clean his clothes, and you clean out the mess that he’s done. You cook the food and clean the home. He promises to clean it but still haven’t done it after promising it for the 10th time. He doesn’t engage in the chores and cleaning. He’d rather have you do it and get offended when you confront him about his issues. It’s an exhausting, hard job with $0 payment when you have a man who’s not independent and refuses to clean up after him or help with the dinner.

He likes to drag people down, including his family, friends and you. He talks inappropriately to people in public and makes fun of people in a disrespectful way, but he will say it was “just a joke” He keeps asking people for help when he can just do it himself. He comes up with immature jokes that were funny as a teen, but not as an adult. He relies on people’s help. He can be disrespectful of people and refuses to apologize, including you. It’s embarrassing to be around people with him because he does things that’s super disrespectful and inappropriate.

You try to have a grown-up conversation with him, but he keeps behaving like a baby who whines all the time and refuses to listen. You feel like you have to explain yourself all the time and he keeps getting offended at everything you say. He is glued to his phone when you talk to him. During the argument, he rolls his eyes and looks around, except you. He only wants to have conversations in his own way. You confront him about his issues and he starts to push the topic away. He refuses to talk about his bad behavior towards you that happened a while ago. He gives you the blame. He can push you away and the next day acts like the victim when you confront him about his violent behavior. He’s constantly in victim mode and takes everything personally when you confront him about how frustrated you are about his bad behavior. Being in a victim-mode means he has low confidence.

He takes no responsibility for his own actions. He started a big problem with you and the next day he acts as nothing happens. He won’t talk about it. He won’t take the blame. He won’t admit what he did was not okay. He will never apologize. Instead, he wants you to just accept his childish, bad behavior and move on. He doesn’t care about how his behavior has hurt you. He cares more about his emotions than your emotions. He won’t take accountability for his mistakes. He doesn’t want to work on his issues by having a conversation with you about him.

This is not a problem if he pays his bills, has a job, stable life and is a mature, responsible man.

It’s a problem if the only thing he does is playing video games all day long and not taking important responsibility in his life. He ignores his unpaid bills. He got fired and refuse to look for another job. He gets a new job after another. Always in between jobs and barely holds on a stable job. He lives in a fantasy world every day and has no grip on reality because he constantly plays video games and doesn’t engage with important people in his life including his own partner.

Not in the mode for sex? He will throw tantrums and get mad at you for ruining “the mood” He constantly begs for sex and doesn’t care about your pleasure. He cares about his own pleasure. He will beg to have sex with you as if he’s begging for candy. It’s all physical to him and you just want a true intimacy. He never asks about what you want and what feels good for you. It’s never about what you want. It’s always about what he wants. If he doesn’t get what he wants from you, he will whine and be mad at you the whole day.

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If you’re a man who has most of these traits: You still have a chance to change yourself if you choose to be open-minded. You can always fix your serious flaws if you open your heart to the truth and accept yourself for being a man-child with a desire to change. Being a man-child can give you a hard life, being a mature man can give you an easy life.

“The truth will set you free. But first it will piss you off.”

Don’t be Peter Pan. Be a man.