Dating : Teenagers aged 13-15. Love and friendship: what is possible and what is not?

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As promised, I am writing an article for teenage readers and their parents on how to properly communicate with the opposite sex in order to remain interesting.

So, you’re 13 or 14 and you liked the boy. Or vice versa. And as long as you look at each other, all is well. But once you decide to go for a walk together, you’ll be disappointed pretty quickly. What’s the matter?

• He talked all the time about computer games, music that I don’t understand.
• he talked about football/hockey/tennis all the time, it was boring.
• There’s nothing to talk about with him, he doesn’t say anything, and I’ve been talking about nothing for two hours.

• « she kept talking about relationships-friendship, love, boring
• « she spent the whole trip talking about other girls, gossiping
• – she talks about uninteresting topics.

WHICH ONE OR WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

So, what do we notice from what teenagers have told us?

Everyone talks ABOUT THEMSELVES. And no one asks about each other’s interests. Everyone draws attention to themselves. The girl believes that the boy should take care of, pay a lot of attention, give chocolates and flowers, write compliments in VK, etc., etc. The boy believes that the girls have become « a lot », you need to write to each other less, less often, communicate too… a smaller one… A girl tends to be more often alone with a friend, while boys quite often pull a girl into the company of peers.

These are typical familiar stories and complaints of teenagers about each other.

GIRLS, you really write too often in VK to your boys! It happens that during the day there are 20-50-100 messages! I saw it myself, they showed it to me. It’s annoying, there’s nothing worse than a pushy girl.

You BOYS really only talk about yourself. Girls get tired of your stories about football, about the details of computer games.

Now let’s talk about teen couples who are attracted to each other. Yes, it also happens that at the age of 12-13, the body begins to experience desires that are normal for adults, but undesirable for teenagers. Why is that?

Any stimulation of something triggers a response. You water cucumbers with fertilizer, they grow faster. If you develop your brain, you’ll get smarter. You stimulate the adolescent body to grow up (kissing, touching, etc. – further censorship does not allow), accelerate the maturation process. Early sex life harms girls.

What’s wrong with that?

For example, a girl’s body will read it like this: aha, everything is clear, we are preparing for motherhood, it’s time to mature. And it will start to mature more actively. Do you think your internal organs are ready for this? No. What is the threat? Uneven development of the body and subsequently accelerated aging. The faster it grew, the faster it dried up. Why am I so sure about this? Practice. As part of the article, I can’t tell you EVERYTHING about this topic, it’s sensitive, and I’m limited in censorship. Therefore, write to your personal messages, make an appointment for consultations. For almost 30 years, I have been tracking the growth and development of certain teenagers, and I have every right to draw MY own conclusions and make recommendations. Early sex life can really ruin a teenager’s life and this is a FACT … Alas.

You are just learning to communicate with each other, and everything will not work out perfectly at once. Even adults can’t do it, and even more so for you. Not because adults are smarter. Sometimes no smarter. But because they have more experience. But adults, too, were once teenagers and also made mistakes. It turns out that no one can avoid mistakes. Get ready that a lot of pancakes « will be lumpy ».

What will help you better understand your friend and what will help you learn to be friends, meet, and experience your first feelings?

Rules:

1) talk to him or her about more than just yourself. Remember the golden rule: « I’ll tell you, you’ll tell me. » Tell us about yourself by asking about her (him).

2) talk about yourself for no more than 5 minutes, then let your friend talk. Ask, ask a question if he is silent

3) find common interests. If they are not present, the chance of a long-term friendship will be significantly reduced. Therefore, if you are both cyclists, ride, like computer games-play. And if the girl does nothing but take care of her appearance, then the question is what will attract the boy? Only in appearance. Hence, the interest will be appropriate. Guess which one. If a boy is only engaged in sports and talks only about it, then a girl who is not an athlete will get bored very quickly. And so on.

4) remember that friendship is learning, lessons. It’s almost 100% likely that you’re not looking at a future husband or wife. This is especially true for girls. It would be a mistake to think that this is the same love-together forever.

5) don’t say goodbye. If a friend has betrayed you by choosing another girl, let him go and don’t take him back. The same goes in reverse – learn to respect yourself! Don’t join the ranks of tormiles, adult domestic violence, and divorce are largely the result of the wrong choice of partner. Learn to value yourself now.

Every teenager has his own complex world. Therefore, the article is only a general recommendation. Each case will have its own separate questions and recommendations. Write, ask, tell your stories, consult on Skype.

For any insults to readers or the author, ban immediately. You can only discuss the article, but not the individual. Insults from both adults and teenagers are a complete disconnect from the blog.

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