h2>Dating : Why You Should Hold Off Dating Even When Lockdown is Over
It’s easy to treat dating apps as just any apps. When you’re online, everyone is just a name on the screen. They could disappear at a click of a button.
But a dating app is not just an app though — one of those names could become your spouse or the most important person in your life someday. It’s far more important than getting a taxi or ordering food.
If you don’t go on LinkedIn and say nonsense to recruiters because you take your career seriously, then don’t go on a dating app and act like you can just do whatever.
If you want a quality, long-lasting relationship, you need to take your love life seriously and approach it strategically.
When vaccines become available and it’s covid-safe to meet people again, don’t jump straight into dating — make sure you’re emotionally healthy and not dating from a place of fear or loneliness.
Here are 5 things to do instead:
1. Pick up your pre-lockdown hobbies again.
The first step to combat lockdown loneliness is to be in touch with your whole self: indoor and outdoor.
Try to resist the urge to fill your tank up with first-date dopamine — make yourself feel better by doing something you love instead.
2. Spend time with loved ones.
Connections don’t only exist between romantic partners — you can find connections with your friends, family, or community too.
Have quality time with loved ones; give them the covid-safe hugs you can’t give during the lockdown. Maybe it’s even a good time to get a dog.
3. Find a wholesome routine.
The early stage of dating is anything but predictable. You don’t know your dates well and you can’t be sure how things might pan out.
So it’s best to have a wholesome routine that will provide you with a stable foundation to weather all the unexpected twists and turns of modern dating.
That way, if things go wrong, you will always have yourself and your life to fall back on and waste no time to start over again.
4. Set your dating goal.
Don’t think of dating as a source of instant gratification; think of it as a tool to get you the love life you want.
Take time to really think about what you want out of dating this time, what your standards and boundaries are, what you’re not willing to negotiate, and so on.
5. Think abundance.
When the lockdown is over, many people will be out meeting new people. So if you hold off dating, you might experience FOMO — fear of missing out.
But remember that taking the time post-lockdown is good for you. Don’t let the scarcity mindset trick you into making hasty decisions that waste your time and might even leave lasting emotional impacts.
Believe that love is abundant for you. When you feel truly ready to date again, there’ll be a world of people ready to meet you.