Dating : You are enough

I have not written in a while, I kinda lost all my passions, everything that made me, well me. It was the condition of HG that took it from me, just being so exhausted from pregnancy, but something encouraged me to write again, so here I am.

Today I’m going to write about knowing your worth, knowing that you are enough, that what you bring to the table is important and that you matter.

A lot of us females, give so much, we give of ourselves first and then wait to see if the other person will give back, and that can be in any relationship, friends or romantic.

I have hurt myself in the years past because of the pattern, I’m a Sagittarius and our hearts are so big, and one of our problems is that we give until we have nothing left, we think somehow that if we love 100 percent, that the other person will finally realize, how much we love them and then return that same love, but sadly that is not the case. We end up draining ourselves completely and never getting back what we put in. I did that in a marriage for 10 years and it left me not knowing who I was anymore and completely lost. I had to find myself again, but I still have those same tendencies. I have to remind myself that it is ok to love, we all are supposed to love in this world, but you don’t have to give all of yourself.

We are not the purser, I have seen friends hurt so bad because a relationship is not going the way that they wanted. They are trying to be the purser. If a man really wants to be with you, he will do anything in his power to be with you. You don’t have to chase him, beg him, or persuade him to be with you if you do then your just opening yourself up to heartbreak.

One of the problems is that we can’t be alone, we can’t be alone to find out who we are, it is too hard, but no one can define you, but you. It takes being alone, it takes silence, it takes tears and the stirring of your soul. It takes being on your knees with your creator. It is going to take some pain, and some hurt, but if you just persevere you will find her, and it will be a beautiful thing. You are enough, you are worthy but you are the only one to know what your worth, you get what you allow in your life. It is all up to you.