POF : Is there something wrong with me? Kind of a vent.
I am 33 Male. I have a job that pays well. A car and motorcycle. Never cheated on any one. Been in multiple relationships where I’ve been cheated on but also have been left. I have hobbies and stay fairly busy. I treat the women I meet well and when I fall in love I give what I can to them and the relationship. I don’t drink and if I do it is only like once a week if that. No drugs. Not married or divorced. No kids. I have dated mothers with kids and have no real problem with that. I try. This is my back story.
I have been on POF for about 5 months. talked to a lot of women on there. There is a pattern though.
Every time I am about to meet with someone in real life, in public or keep talking to them in order to meet, they bail. They give an excuse or something that sounds fishy or just ghost me.
No one owes me anything and I’m understanding to a fault. I get it’s scary but I’m starting to suspect there’s something wrong with me.
These women message me. THEY ask for dirty pictures or share theirs first. They sext and get all hot and tell me they can’t wait to meet and then after a while they go cold or distant.
I read all the time that you shouldn’t text too much or seem overly interested or whatever. But when I don’t talk to them for one day they get pissed and act like I don’t care or something.
All the women I talk to all say they want a relationship but won’t keep a date time or cancel at the last minute. They reschedule and I give them another chance and they cancel again. One girl invited me straight to her place first date and I was confused. She of course cancelled after giving me her address and I was totally cool with that. We went on a date in public and she said she had an amazing time and couldn’t wait to do it again. Text me the next couple days and then faded away. All the while telling me she wants to see me asap.
I had another who lives 45 minutes away cancel once and reschedule. We were supposed to go to dinner Friday and she cancelled again with another excuse. She then tells me she doesn’t want to commit to anything right now.
I told her again I understand but I didn’t want to marry her or anything crazy I wanted to take her to dinner. That is all.
This again is after she sexts me and sends me nudes and tells me she feels comfortable with me etc…
What the hell is wrong with me. This has happened like 7 times.
Rant over. Thanks.