Dating : Turning 40 soon and could do with advice
Hey, here’s the deal, I’m a guy, about to turn 40 in a couple of months , I’m single and I don’t have children. The pandemic came along and obviously I’ve felt loneliness like most single folk out there. I have tried dating apps , Tinder being the main one, and over the last year while I’ve had matches , they have been with women who I just don’t want to date. I’m someone who’s educated, worked all his life, and my very last match was with a woman who’s been out of work for 8 years…. Nope, and it’s not like she was spending that time raising kids or caring for someone. And there’s been a crap ton of ghosting too.
So basically I ended up deleting Tinder, as I thought I might as well embrace singledom than damage my mental health during the pandemic
The pandemic has made things a lot harder, I’m permanently working from home , in the past I actually met a girlfriend while I was just grabbing lunch, but now possibilities like that are gone too. This thought actually saddened me. I don’t have a huge social circle, my best friend is 30 and female ,she’s in a happy relationship so we don’t really hang out as much as we used to, although we do try and meet up once a week. I do feel like a male Pam (The Office) in that I miss spending time with my bestie, and don’t worry I don’t have any romantic feelings for my friend, but I miss goofing around and talking about the most random things with her
Anyway this is a long post already, but I was hoping for some advice, I don’t care if you’re male or female, but some tips on how to cope being single and childless at 40 would help. Ordinarily I wouldn’t have been so worried about my future but now that I’m also working from home, I’m going a day or two often without interacting with a human and I know this isn’t good for my health. I would like to settle down with someone, start a family , but I honestly don’t even know how that’s going to be possible in my situation. It just seems like 2020 has wrecked my life.
There are pluses, I’ve read loads of books, watched movies that I’d missed out on, I watched The Help for the first time last night and blubbed, and no one was around to judge me 😊
Loneliness is the most deadly disease,been single and bore for years without a soulmate
Im a 19 yea old girl in a “relationship”, so im probably not the demographic you were aiming for, but one thing i can say to you is this. As a single man with no children you have the luxury to design your life and that’s attractive to younger women so maybe try looking younger and maybe even consider sugar relationships if you’re financially in the position to. You have a lot of your needs met yet still it’s not a full on relationship, but if you and the person gel it can transition to a “vanilla” relationship, but yeah that’s all 🙂
>So basically I ended up deleting Tinder, as I thought I might as well embrace singledom than damage my mental health during the pandemic
You basically answered your own question.