Dating : What do you think about people who start dating a few days to weeks after a divorce?
It seems so foreign to me that people can go on dates right after their divorce. But I can understand if they’ve been checked out of the relationship a long time ago to start dating right away.
It raises a red flag to me. People should take some time for themselves right after divorce, I don’t want to be their therapist or a rebound relationship for them.
I don’t think anything about it because no one has any idea what goes on between a couple besides them. Sometimes people check out of relationships and stay for comfort, to give a partner another chance, etc etc etc. Divorce can also be expensive as well so sometimes it’s about a lot more factors than one as to how soon someone moves on and does what they want to do.
They probably just want to feel something different than they are feeling or to try to lose the negative feelings they are carrying by distracting themselves with another person. It’s not particularly fair to the other person but that doesn’t stop a lot of people who are looking for their own relief.
For legal reasons, many people have been separated and living apart for over a year before being divorced.
Maybe I can give some perspective, my friend went through a divorce but waited until the divorce finalized. The reason for the divorce was that their partner cheated and choice the other person. They had split up and lived separated for a year and the marriage had already been in crumble before the cheating happened.
Directly when the divorce had gone through my friend started to date first was to see if they could build a relationship and they managed to find a new partner that treat my friend great.
So you can never know why they start directly to date after a divorce but it’s always something you can communicate about. I see that there nothing wrong with dating after a divorce.
I did that after I got divorced. Why wouldn’t I? I was ready. By the time you get to divorce, things have been « over » in your mind for a long time. The divorce itself is just a legal formality at that point.
Exactly – in particular if they were the one who was happy to push for divorce, they have probably been waiting for this moment to come
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In my state, there is a mandatory six month separation period between filing for divorce and the actual proceedings. I’m about halfway through the separation period, and have been working on myself and figuring out what I want in my next relationship. I fully intend to start dating as soon as my divorce is finalized. I was considering starting earlier, but the more I thought about it, I decided I don’t want to bring the baggage of a pending divorce into into my dating life.
I wouldn’t take them seriously.
There are times when your partner does something to prove they never really cared about you and once you realize that moving on can be easy. I’d rather not judge someone because you never really know what they went through. Though it’s sometimes a coping mechanism too.
A divorce means nothing. Most of time both people aren’t in the relationship for a very long time before the divorce papers are signed so I don’t think it means anything when they start dating right away.