Dating : Currently coming to the end of « a love that can’t last » (wrong place, wrong time). What is your story/ experience with this?
Hi y’all,
As the title says, i’m currently in the middle of one of life’s cruelest jokes. I’ll try be brief, I was recently accepted into a PhD program in Denver, so i’ll be moving away in a few months. Because of this, I was looking to have as much fun as possible over the summer before I left (mostly casual dating).
Well, of course, life throws me a curve ball. A few weeks ago, I *happen* to decide to quit my night job, my friends *happen* to call me to go downtown and I just *happen* to meet a very wonderful and sweet woman. She tells me she’s moving to New York in a month or so. I say i’m leaving for Denver. Perfect. No strings attached.
Naturally, these past few weeks with her have been some of the best « dating » experiences i’ve ever had. However, she’s leaving this Sunday.
We both like each other and would be dating if life wasn’t taking us in two different directions. I’m M26, so i’m under no illusion that i’ll never love again or something dramatic like that, but it is a very bittersweet feeling to meet someone who you feel you could have a strong relationship with but it just won’t work for reasons out of your control.
What are your experiences with this? How do you feeling looking back on it?
I’ve had a couple of these, many of them lasting much, much longer than a month. It’s really just about convincing yourself that they’re not right for you for one reason or another. It’s quite easy to do, fortunately.
Definitely sucks, but if you’re this broken up about a girl you’ve known for a couple weeks you might want to reflect a bit about why that is.
I’d also consider that part of the reason why it’s so great is probably because you’re both moving away. There’s little to no nerves, nothing to hold back, no baggage to share, etc. If you were both staying put it would be different.