Dating : is texting other guys cheating
I’m in need of some advice. I’ve been dating this guy for a few months and I’m head over heals in love with him. Everything is great. However, a week into us becoming official, I got black out drunk and messaged this guy I used to hook up with and asked him what he was up to. That’s it, the conversation didn’t go further than that because After I sent that I passed out. I also barely remember sending him the message until I saw it in the morning. I feel horrible about it I really don’t have bad intention. I have told my boyfriend that I have a past with this guy and told him he will occasionally Snapchat me and send me memes and he said he doesn’t mind that I’m casually talking to him. I just want to make it clear that I’m not interested in this guy romantically at all and I do not want to hangout with him. I aIso don’t really respond to his messages and when I do I keep it platonic. Am I overreacting here or should I tell him I drunkingly messaged the guy? I feel like it will cause problems that aren’t there.
if you used to hook up with this guy, are in a committed relationship and no longer have feelings, why is his number/snap still added in the first place? Imagine the roles were reversed and your boyfriend was texting his old girl “wyd” behind ur back, black out drunk? If ur serious about someone, don’t play games or hang onto old flings just to fill insecurities. Everyone gets insecure about relationships, but whether or not you choose to remain loyal and be the bigger person is up to you. Also, if you’re piss-drunk and still thinking about old hook-ups instead of ur current man, maybe you’re not really as committed as u think?
Deff would create problems not there. I would honestly not have communication with him anymore fr. If it wasn’t much past a FWB kinda thing then he doesn’t quite serve a purpose in your life other than possible making your bf uncomfortable.
Don’t tell your boyfriend. Move on. And don’t do it again.
Not telling someone to not hurt someone can be okay. This is one of those situations where I would not expose more information. Stop doing this and move on. If you think it is cheating, then it is cheating.
I mean being friends with an ex or an old hookup is normal. If you weren’t trying to cheat then no issue. Dont tell him though. People get jealous over stupid shit.
It’s not cheating to have regular non-sexual conversation with other people