Dating : Should I keep pursuing?
A bit of background between me(28m) and her(28f). We went through school together, real good friends. There was always something there we both knew it and spoke about it. Went a bit further than friends but then she went off to uni and I went through my apprenticeship. Few years go by and the next I hear she is getting married, bought her first house with her fiance and has the job she worked so hard to get through her studies. I hand on heart honestly couldnt be happier for her. When that all fell apart though she reached out to me and I did what any good friend would do and gave her an ear to listen to and a shoulder, nothing more. At this point I was travelling around the country working long hours and had no access to my mobile until night time so couldnt be there for her as much as I wanted to, time passes and she meets somebody else and goes through another rough breakup. This time she came to me I was home though and gave her a lot of my time, I let her know too that my feelings had never changed but I was whatever she needed me to be, and at that point it was a good friend so I listened and gave advice. Since then we have talked, feelings have came back from both ends, ive had her round my family and my mother invited her out for a birthday bash alongside both my sisters and some friends. Now while this birthday bash was going on I was working away so couldn’t make it. She declared her love for me to my family and couldn’t sing my praises enough. The night was supposed to end at my mothers with her staying in the spare room. Instead she decided to go to a party with my sisters, which is fine, but she decided to sleep with one of the guys at the party, while my sister was there. Im not too fussed about her enjoying herself as we aren’t really together but to declare all her feelings for me to my sisters and then do that while she was there made my sister feel uncomfortable and I feel disrespected. I dont know If im over reacting cos it is super early days for us but the fact she had that lack of respect for my sisters and done what she did has me wanting to cut losses and stay friends. What do yous think?
>A bit of background between me(28m) and her(28f). We went through school together, real good friends. There was always something there we both knew it and spoke about it. Went a bit further than friends but then she went off to uni and I went through my apprenticeship. Few years go by and the next I hear she is getting married, bought her first house with her fiance and has the job she worked so hard to get through her studies. I hand on heart honestly couldnt be happier for her. When that all fell apart though she reached out to me and I did what any good friend would do and gave her an ear to listen to and a shoulder, nothing more. At this point I was travelling around the country working long hours and had no access to my mobile until night time so couldnt be there for her as much as I wanted to, time passes and she meets somebody else and goes through another rough breakup.
>This time she came to me I was home though and gave her a lot of my time, I let her know too that my feelings had never changed but I was whatever she needed me to be, and at that point it was a good friend so I listened and gave advice. Since then we have talked, feelings have came back from both ends, ive had her round my family and my mother invited her out for a birthday bash alongside both my sisters and some friends.
>Now while this birthday bash was going on I was working away so couldn’t make it. She declared her love for me to my family and couldn’t sing my praises enough. The night was supposed to end at my mothers with her staying in the spare room. Instead she decided to go to a party with my sisters, which is fine, but she decided to sleep with one of the guys at the party, while my sister was there. Im not too fussed about her enjoying herself as we aren’t really together but to declare all her feelings for me to my sisters and then do that while she was there made my sister feel uncomfortable and I feel disrespected.
>I dont know If im over reacting cos it is super early days for us but the fact she had that lack of respect for my sisters and done what she did has me wanting to cut losses and stay friends. What do yous think?
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Sounds messy. And I’ve never heard a solid relationship start with the girl slept with someone else basically under the guys nose. Like yeah you’re single but out of respect you wouldn’t do it if you really liked the guy, it’s a no from me.