Dating : Doing what’s best for you doesn’t always feel awesome
As someone who’s had to walk away from multiple guys I would’ve loved to be with/be intimate with, due to their own baggage, I have to say that it sucks. Waking up alone sucks. Having a dry ass phone sucks. Sexual frustration sucks. Knowing that he’s out with someone else, not caring who, but you still haven’t found the right one and you’re alone SUCKS.
Yet, all I can do is try to remind myself it’s for the best. Keep telling myself that it’ll pay off, you know…someday. Keep reminding myself that I deserve better.
But right now, it absolutely sucks.
Edit: don’t get me wrong, this sucks but the consequences of staying with these dudes is infinitely worse so I’m not too pressed
Refreaking tweet. You know shit sucks when you go am entire day and the only call or text you receive are from spam numbers, sure my friends contact me from time to time to do something on the weekends I wish I can just be random with a woman I like being around, mall looking for a hat? Sure, I love the beach, my friends hate it but I would love to walk with someone and get smoothies on the beach. *Sigh* our time will come…end mini rant lol
Just last week had to break with my new gf because her parents told her ex ( who was still texting her and going to her house with flowers to win her back – i had no idea about this ) about me and wanted to fight me for her. I have no more patience for things like this.
What does “having a dry ass phone” mean?
i feel every word.yeah it feel good to improve and work on yourself but in those small moments when you wish you had someone to hold or to just do stuff with(gaming or talking or watching tv) thats when it hits you.
As a [30M] and been through a lot, I agree so much. I’ve been impulsive before and it was a nightmare.
Oh man. This one hits too close to home, tbh.
I know the feeling. After making some wrong choices, I made a commitment to myself to hold out for the right thing or nothing at all. Who knew the nothjng-at-all part was going to last so long? Kudos for valuing yourself enough not to settle!
Yes it does suck!
The only thing you can do is make your best life.
Thanks for posting this, I’m going through the same shit but on the receiving end. I didn’t really understand her decision, I know it’s for the best but I didn’t really understand how she could be so strong about it. Reading this post makes it a bit more understandable.
Get friends as follows: find an interest group or hobby group and eat with them. For example, if you like fish brains and ST:VOY:Threshhold, then find a SFcon, go there, talk with peers, watch VOY:Threshhold, and suck fish heads with them.
Women’s and men’s issues (dating) are like first and third world problems, the first complain that they are fat from eating a lot, the others die of hunger.
Ohh that makes sense. Fuck I’m old. Try going for a different type of guy than you usually do. Good luck.
It especially sucks when you see them daily now
I needed to hear this today. Agreed. Keep with it, I will too ❤
Don’t you want to be happy and intimate with them? Would the consequences/baggage stop you from being happy?
i am sorry to say i’m in the same situation
knowing someone else is out there feeling the same bullshit makes me a bit less sad about it
thanks for posting!
Trust me, I feel you…im new back into the dating scene… I’m a good catch, not to sound conceited, but I realize that now… And it’s a shit show… I’m having a time with it myself.
doing the right thing in life in general is always sucks ! i’m in the same situation as you and starting to believe i’m gonna stay alone forever (i’m starting to embrace it and enjoy the benefits of it)
Yes. It fucking sucks. It sucks to remind yourself that you deserve better and not to settle for guys who are no good from the very start. But I always remember this quote, “There’s more to life than love.” I believe that we can still be happy and contented without having someone in our life. It will happen if it’s bound to happen.
Out of curiosity what baggage are you talking about?
I make it up in bulk. It’s probably a stupid decision but at least it spreads out the risk. Right now I’m talking to several girls that I don’t see a future with, but they seem willing to do things together so at least that’s something. I actually met once last night that seems great (little chubby but hey, nice personality). I can’t do anything til next week cause I’m *supposedly* booked up – date/sleepover tonight, date/sleepover tomorrow. But that’s the risk I take.
Everyone has baggage but I get it – some people’s baggage is ever growing. You can’t make somebody grow up/be faithful/fall in love with you.
So maybe I’m missing a few opportunities, but at least I’m still in the game, taking those practice shots, and getting good exercise. Good luck; hope you find someone. If not we can always stay with one of these lames 😛
Edit: accidentally wrote can, meant can’t make someone..
Focus on improving yourself instead. It’s ok to feel lonely sometimes, but don’t let it control you or lead you to seeking attention from the wrong kind of people.
Props to you for knowing when to walk away. Too many people are afraid to be alone and stay with someone because they simply want « someone ». I’d rather have no one than waste my time with a guy I’m not head over heels for. It sucks for now but it will pay off later!
Something about how you’ve written this gives me the impression you grew up in the bay area lol
I’m in the same boat as of last night. Im sad but its for the best for both of us.
At least you dated. You also chose to date them, maybe there was someone better along the way that you chose to ignore.
Preaaach !! I feel this right now
Wow this is exactly what im feeling right now
Needed this!
Eh well I wake up daily without messages. Getting ghosted it’s damn stupid
I also ended things 2 days ago with the guy I’ve been seeing for a while as I felt freaking confused about this guy. This even made me feel so anxious and lose myself. I think we made a good choice for ourselves… once something feels not right, we should end it. I know it fucking sucks and is painful, but for the best. Cheers.
I use my time to go do things I enjoy but havent done it in a long time, or never got the chance to until now. I know it can feel a bit frustrating to not have a partner, and like you said you know what you’re doing it for the best. The good news is you’ll be more assertive about what you’re looking for and you wont even look at guys that dont match what you’re looking for.
I’m sure when you continue to treat yourself good, you’ll attract guys similar to what you’re showing in public. Just keep your boundaries and standards up as always.