Dating : Going back into the dating scene after break up
Before we start, literally was not trying to get back into the dating scene. It just kind of happened and I’m living on this whole « this is my summer fun and I’m going to do everything I want this summer »
I was in a relationship with my recent ex (Luke) for a month, but we have been talking since March. During the entire time we’ve talked and seen each other and dated, it was great and he would just tell me how perfect I was to him and how much he really liked me. And I believed it because I wanted someone to be in love with me as much as I began to grow attached to Luke. Then he broke up with me about two weeks ago because he couldn’t grow stronger feelings for me and decided to end it. I believe his anxiety got the best of him and I honestly would love to get another chance to date him, but we both decided to be friends. We agreed that if we start seeing other people, we had to let the other person know. I wasn’t planning to start seeing anyone until I really evaluate myself as a person.
Before I started seeing Luke, I was in a FWB relationship with this guy named Gavin who I have known since high school. He and I began hanging out in the fall and sparked FWB with each other. In the time we’ve known each other, he’s a nice guy a bit lost but nice enough. It’s just that some words would come out of his mouth and I don’t really agree with him on where he stands i.e. women’s rights. Plus he has told me how he’s attracted to his female friends and made out with one of them twice while she was in a relationship. We ended the FWB when I started to see Luke more and went back to being friends no fuss or anything. We did say however that if I got out of my relationship, we could go on a date and I agreed because HA Luke and I breaking up didn’t seem possible. Oh the irony.
Ever since Gavin found out I was single, he’s been really pursuing me and trying to invite me to his house to « watch a movie » (we all know that’s just PG version of booty call.) But I have made it my personal goal to not be anyone’s play thing and shit until I start seeing someone seriously with romantic intention. Don’t know how Gavin can read minds, but he asked me out on a date with dinner and arcade game in a nearby town. Though I don’t have the least bit interest in trying to find someone to date at the moment while the break up is kind of fresh, I decided I’m not going to say no to seeing how Gavin and I are in a date situation. But now I’m kind of struggling in telling Luke that I’m going on a date or just let it be and tell him after. I feel like telling him after would be good so he’s not getting all worked up throughout the entire day at work.
