Dating : A girl ghosted me after 3 dates

Dating : A girl ghosted me after 3 dates

UPDATE: Turns out she didnt ghost me. I confronted her about ignoring my texts and she immediatly responded saying she’s ignoring everyone. She’s just going through a bad time right now.

I am a gay girl who recently came out and Ive been finding dates on dating apps. Ive had a bunch of girls ghost after making plans for a 1st date, but recently I was ghosted by a girl after we went on 3 dates. And by “ghosted” I mean I texted her twice asking her something and she didn’t respond, and its been a few days.

How can anyone think its okay to pretend someone doesn’t exist instead of just saying something like, “I don’t feel chemistry between us”? Im not owed an explanation about why someone isn’t interested in me and that’s not at all what im looking for. If Im told there is no chemistry, then I have closure and I can move on immediately. Instead, if someone ignores my texts, im left wondering and stressed out for a few days. Its just a disrespectful and nasty way to treat someone. I should mention, a lot of times both people just wont contact each other after a date(s) and its clear the decision not to meet again is mutual. That’s not ghosting.

Besides being hurt, im also really confused about this girl because every time we met up she told me im pretty and she seemed interested in me. The last date we had she said she wanted to show my videos to her friend (im a filmmaker) because she wants to “be proud of me in that way” (show me off) and she said i’m smart and talented. Also the 1st two dates we kissed and the 2nd one she invited me to stay the night at her place and we did sexual things. We didn’t kiss on the last date but we were also in a really public place. And then before we went home after our last date she said she would text me. I just feel like she led me on and then threw me out like a piece of trash. Of course everyone has a right the change their mind but it really did seem like she was into me and its just strange :/

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Im just really starting to lose faith in humanity to be honest.

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Is this a common thing that happens to people? Is this more common with lesbians? Ive never had this happen to me when I was dating guys.