Dating : Questioning if I should go into an LDR with my friend. I’m a 19 (M) and my friend is a 18(F).
I have a friend that I’ve known for around 3 years that lives in a different state. I’m in GA and they’re in Ohio. We are both college students if that is important. For the last year or so I’ve started to develop feelings for her. We’ve even sexted once or twice but just decided to remain friends since we were just being horny teenagers.
Last year I had gotten a little high and started texting her to calm me down. I don’t know why but I had told her I had wanted to marry her but not sure why I said it. We never really talked about it and kind of just went about our business. Now moving on I told her how I felt about her about 8 months later and she had no clue that I had even felt that way. She told me that she really hadn’t thought of us as a couple since the distance and everything. She was just unsure on how something like a ldr would even work out , since she doesn’t like calling or FaceTime. The conversation ended after that since it was really late at night so it wasn’t like we picked it up the next morning and continued talking about it.
Currently I’ve been wanting to really talk to her about us and expand on my feelings for her since I never had a chance to fully explain myself. The issue is I’m not sure if a relationship like this could last since we are so far apart. Being broke college students really doesn’t give us the chance to see each other because I’m 100% positive neither of our parents would really be okay with us going across the country for each other. I understand that I’m an adult but my parents still support me somewhat financially and I’ve never told them she exists.
But I guess to wrap this up im not really sure if I should just say fuck it and tell her how I feel fully and see what happens. I’m just really confused if I really like her like that since I’ve never had a chance to talk to her IRL. How do I know if those feelings are even genuine to begin with.
She’s been my close friend for 3 years and I love her to death as a friend and would do anything for her. I’m just not sure if liking her is all in my head or whatever. (Sorry if this is confusing I’ve had trouble trying to put this into words)
If you are confused about your feelings towards her you should definitely take time to yourself first to figure it out. Take some time out like don’t talk to her for a while and see how you feel. That’s the first thing you have to do. It could be just the fear of losing something not real genuine feelings
Don’t bother. LDRs are generally big wastes of time that result in no one being satisfied. There is hardly an adequate foundation here to sustain a long-term relationship even temporarily.
> I’m just really confused if I really like her like that since I’ve never had a chance to talk to her IRL
If you’ve never talked to her in real life it’s an even bigger waste of time and there is basically no justification for being so infatuated with her. And there is always a strong chance that she is fatter and less attractive than she looks in online pictures.