Dating : Texting tips for romancing Millennials and GenZers?
I’ve started dating again after a decade-ish hiatus. I’m in my 40s.
The medium of communication I was used to was e-mail, which wasn’t so short and immediate as texting.
What should I know about texting when seeking romance from those in their 20s?
I’m thoughtful and witty but not so great with on-the-fly communication.
Should I respond immediately when my potential paramour texts me? Is it expected?
How do you compose messages? I sometimes feel like I have to lay out where the conversation is going to go on a separate text document, since I can’t lay out an extended series of thoughts like in e-mail. Is there an app for this?
I dread writing and revising and imagining that the person on the other end is watching those « typing » dots flash for an unusual amount of time. I should probably shut off that feature, right?
If you have any other ideas or tips or tricks, please let me know!
Initiate texts just for the sake of texting is my advice. « If he doesn’t text he’s probably not into you » is an advice I have given and recurved many times.
Do you use some messaging app? like whatsapp, fb messenger, whatever?
I occasionally use the notes app on my phone (iOS) to jot down my texts if they require more thought or effort, then copy and paste in the text window without showing the dots. As far as timing on texts go, you really shouldn’t think about it too much because younger people are generally a lot more responsive with texts than older millennials and gen z, but it’s good to test the waters before you jump in with too many over-eager responses.
You can start by avoiding generational stereotypes.