Dating : How come dating apps don’t work for me?
I’ve been on Bumble and Tinder, mainly Bumble for awhile now. I don’t think I look unattractive. I’m an alright looking guy. Medium longish, soft, brown curly hair, overweight, some facial hair, and an extensive bio that includes a majority of my hobbies interests. I also clearly state that I’m not there to fuck or some shit, and that I’m genuinely there for a relationship. I’ll write my bio down below;
I just want some love man 🥺. I love to eat, cook, laugh, and make people enjoy themselves. I’m always down for a good conversation, really about anything you can come up with. I’m not on here just for sex, sorry not sorry 🤷🏻♂️
Then I have my Instagram at the end Incase I don’t see their texts on there.
I don’t get why I barely get any matches. I think in my history of dating apps I’ve gotten a handful of matches. I live in NY so the variety is pretty good around here, I just don’t get it.
I was on tinder for about 5 years. Never had a date or anything . Complete garbage and waste of time
I’m not saying an extensive bio detailing your interests are bad, but it is clearly not working so you have to change things up.
Dramatically shorten your bio and add humour to it. Girls don’t have time to read long bios for every single person, particularly if the guy is just average looking.
As far as pics go, you’re going to need a few genuine female friends to judge them for you. The average guy makes so many tinder pic mistakes it’s unbelievable. No selfies, no topless (unless it’s in good context e.g the beach), no sunnies, no filters. Put your best pics forward!
But like others have said, tinder works best for great looking guys. The less attractive you are, the worse tinder gets at an exponential rate.
Bro I can help you, coaching your way thru that. Im considering doing it for real in a future so pm me.
Mate, your bio is terrible. Who doesn’t love to eat and laugh? 😀 As someone said already, it sounds very desperate. A basic format:
1. A quote that resonates with you. Something deep and meaningful.
2. I’m 5 foot bla, currently studying/working whatever. I enjoy cooking, hitting the gym, red wine and deep conversations.
3. Looking to find someone with similar interests to connect with. Lets grab a bagel or whatever you Americans do 😉
Dont try to be cute. Get your pics vetted by a male and female friend who has been doing this successfully a while and will give you honest feedback.
Good luck!
>overweight
Lose weight
On online dating pretty much all matches go to the most desireabke guys so its a waste of time unless you are a women or a super hot dude
Have to be at least an 8 if you want matches. Women don’t go online looking for the average guy on the street.
Hey OP. I too live in NY. I don’t know if I’m an « 8 » or whatever (I think if you feel like a 10 you’re a fucking 10) but I get like 3 matches a day.
Try Hinge. Tinder is a little too superficial to really use as an assessment of how dating apps work for you.
Hope that helps!
that wording actually sounds a bit desperate or too generic/boring. maybe post a pic on rateme.