Dating : Casual sex for people who don’t like sex at all ?
Online dating hasn’t been working for me (30m)
I’ve been very up front with not wanting sex before establishing trust
No one seems to have that kind of patience.
I’m missing out on relationship opportunities by refusing sex.
So I guess the solution is to start having casual sex.
But I dont really enjoy sex at all. And I’ve always worried this will make me bad at it. Especially with someone I dont know or care about.
No complaints from past partners. But I truly loved them and was willing to put in the time and effort.
Can anyone offer some advice?
Do I have to start putting out and having bad, boring and unwanted sex? Won’t that only undermine my relationship goals anyways?
Or is there some way to help women be more patient and understanding?
They all claim they are okay with taking it slow. But whether they don’t believe me or they’re just horny they all get frustrated and think I’m not interested or not worth their time eventually.
Honestly I’m the same way but I never have to say it. People usually know once they meet me that I’m more interested in getting to know someone as opposed fucking them. So perhaps try to not emphasize it.
Also if people aren’t patient they’re the wrong kind of people. No one should pressure you into having sex. There’s literally no excuse for that.
Don’t do it! you going to feel used, most likely these women probably just want sex and ghost so giving in they get what they want. I am constantly glad I never gave in because most time most of these type of guys ghost me anyway. Stay sticking up for yourself this is not okay to do to people. It’s just downright creepy and manipulative as hell.
I never thought a man would complain of this. Because every man i meet on tinder just wants to have sex. No one even cares to get to know you or anything. Like 10 min in the conversation and they start hinting about it or asking to meet. Like how did u have the time to know me. I still don’t know if i even want to meet you.
Also how can u have sex with someone you don’t care about? I’ve never understood this. This is a very intimate thing and shouldn’t be a casual thing. It’s my opinion.
Do you not enjoy sex even in a committed LTR? Or is your lack of enjoyment of sex limited to just when it is with someone you don’t know well?