Dating : Have you ever dated someone that totally changed your type?
I’m 5’4 and 120 lbs. I used to only be attracted to guys who were around my height and size. More than 2 or 3 inches taller was a major turn-off to me because the thought of looking “up” to my partner just didn’t sit right. I found the idea of being able to walk together hand-in-hand and effortlessly gaze into each other’s eyes so beautiful, like we were true partners. I even dated a guy 2 inches shorter and loved it (until he broke my poor little heart lol).
A couple of years ago I decided to get involved with a bear-like 6 ft. 200 lbs dude just to experience something different/say I did. That’s what college is for, right? I knew it would be temporary from the start because he really wasn’t my type but I went into it for the experience.
Surprise! I now can’t even fathom how my type was what it was before. I don’t how how I was so disgusted by the thought of looking up to my partner/them being bigger. I love it so much! Sure feeling like equal partners was amazing, but the feeling of being so little next to my man is honestly even better. And cuddling with him was like cuddling with a warm bear (did I also mention he was hairy?). Not to mention being able to be carried around (especially during sex ;)). I seriously don’t think I’ll ever be able to go back. The fact that one guy left such a huge mark on me is insane.
Did anyone else experience something like this? Maybe the opposite?
Edit: a few words
..lol women universally desire big tall dominant men
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not sure why this is a surprise, this is some red pill reinforcing shit
I think peoples types are constantly changing, especially when meeting new people because how can you truly know what your type is if you’ve never met or been with a certain type before?
Yup! I met a big fat strong guy and we had a FWB situation for awhile. Fell in love with his personality first but when I realized he could basically toss me around like a rag doll in bed i was smitten
To me I’ve always found it a little weird that people have an attraction to some specific combination of physically traits that they refer to as their « type » the « tall , chiseled jaw handsome type » or whatever.
Men, pay attention to this.
Women like strong, muscular men. If there’s one thing you could do to improve your success, it would be to hit to gym.
Dated a girl that changed me from skinny to larger women
This is a common phenomenon among women. They are called « alpha widows ». A woman has sex or a relationship with a man who is big, strong, dominant, masculine and good looking and she is irreversibly changed forever – she finds it virtually impossible to be attracted to lesser men after that point (by « lesser men », I mean average to decent looking guys who have their shit together, but weren’t born in the top 1-2% of genetically gifted males).
This also correlates with the likelihood of a woman divorcing later in life and with her lack of satisfaction in future relationships. There’s no surprise that women who have had sex with 20+ hot muscular badboys in her 20’s finds it really difficult to pair bond later in life and are way more likely to divorce.
The statistics are here: [https://i.warosu.org/data/lit/img/0080/47/1463447880016.jpg](https://i.warosu.org/data/lit/img/0080/47/1463447880016.jpg)
This only covers partner count, not how hot, muscular or masculine the partners were. It’s even worse when you account for the attractiveness of those partners.
It’s also described perfectly in this Katy Perry song: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahha3Cqe_fk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahha3Cqe_fk) « The one that got away » In other words, that big strong hot dominant dude who women love. They can never love a lesser man in the same way again. This is why there’s so many divorces and dead bedrooms in marriages. Women just can’t bring themselves to be attracted to regular men when they got sex or attention from one hottie back when they were younger.
Yes. I married her.
Yes, for some reason I would date thin/really skinny guys like they way too thin while I was chubby/fat. But seeing them naked or cuddling them was eh then turn into ew I didn’t like feeling their bones against my skin. Also, I didn’t like how much my weight was so important to these type of guys. I remember my ex use to tell me he left me if I ever become 300 pounds. Turn me off completely like why am I dating these type of guys but for some reason they make it obvious how much my stomach fat was bothering them? it’s weird too date a skeleton-like you then if you have a problem dating me. I realize maybe I should date someone fatter or who has a lot of body fat because of muscle. It’s been years and I haven’t try dating another skinny guy since I am not attractive anymore lol.
I have a type but I’m not shallow to the point I’m going to eliminate anyone who doesn’t fit that type, so I guess the answer is no.