Dating : When men always text back immediately even when I don’t reciprocate: warning sign or sign of interest?
Hey Reddit, I’m [23F] wondering what the deal is with men I meet on Hinge/Bumble who always respond to texts within ~5 minutes, no matter how long it takes me to respond. I can’t always respond at my job, or I’m cooking/running errands/hanging with friends and sometimes take 2-3 hours to respond because, well, I have things going on in my life beyond dating. (To be clear: if I’m just sitting around or if we’re trying to make plans, I don’t take hours to respond.)
When guys always respond right away, I can’t help but picture them just sitting on their phone all day waiting for me (or anyone else) to text them. I recently met a guy that’s a super quick responder. We had one date and I want to see him again, but should I be worried about this texting? I’m interested in starting a serious relationship and am willing to invest time getting to know someone, but at this point in my life this guy isn’t my number one priority–and I don’t want to be the number one priority of a guy I met once.
So what’s the deal? Does this speed-texting mean a guy has no life, or is this just what guys do when they’re into someone?
We’re all old enough to drop the fairytale that people go without looking at their phones for more then 5min. Sure, some people are busier then others but everyone I know is constantly checking their phones. Work, driving, crossing the street, watching tv, etc. it doesn’t, we are checking our phones.
I used to actually respond to messages immediately after I got them. I don’t, only to avoid looking like I’m desperate and got nothing to do. Truth be told, I’ve got a desk job and some days I’m super busy and others I’ve really got nothing better to do.
At the end of the day, it means as much as you want it to.
lol this is why i never answer a girls texts immidietely
He seems more interested in dating than you. You seem like you aren’t making dating a main priority and he is? Would you rather he was the one that didn’t respond for hours? Responding right away certainly does not mean someone doesn’t have a life, he’s probably just interested. Do you want someone to put you on the back burner and put everything else a priority? Honest questions. I would love it if a guy actually responds right away
Warning sign? Hard to tell, but he’s interested for sure. In the worst case, he has nothing else to do. In the best, he is making that time for you. Just ask him what he did today or what are his hobbies, you’ll know how he spends his time.
It really just depends on the guy. I have my phone on me pretty much all the time. I do maintenance work so I don’t have a boss hovering over me and unless I have something like caulk all over my hands I can generally look at my phone at any given time. If I’m not at work then I’m at home playing a game or with some friends. Maybe if I’m playing a match of FIFA which takes about 20 minutes I won’t interrupt it to respond, but usually I have no good reason to not respond within a few minutes unless I’m just trying to appear aloof. Now whether or not I think of the correct response right away is another question, but even if I’m not sitting around waiting for a text I really have no good reason not to respond quickly.
Next time a guy plays too many games with you, go ahead and thank yourself.
I respond right away because I always have my phone with me and I am interested in dating I don’t really care what people think about me. Hasn’t worked for me so far but I still don’t care lol
he’s probably just really into you.