Dating : 28 F and never had my first kiss
Plz give me assumptions of why you think a 28 year old girl like me has never been in a relationship, had never been asked out, or picked up, had never been asked for her number, has never been on a date, and no one is interested in her.
Try tinder, RIP inbox though
For me, I assume they are already taken, don’t like short or asian guys. No way that girl will like my hobbies. I keep track of the NOs, and statistically, this is it.
To me, attitude is more significant than body type. If I talk to you and you aren’t willing to engage voluntarily, I’m out.
Be happy and enjoy life. Let it show!
You called yourself « the fat, ugly, intimidating friend » in one of your comments, that’s the main problem I think. If you think about yourself that way, other people will start to do that too. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Work on your self esteem. It can be hard, but you can do that. You are beautiful, even if you can’t see that. Work on yourself, go to the gym, find new hobbies, read new books, travel. You’ll see how your life becomes better and eventually you’ll have success in relationships too.
Lesson #1: You are where you are in life.
You need some help improving this area of your life. A marriage and family therapist is great for this.
Maybe not attractive, maybe religion, crazy maybe
I’m a fan of proximity spawn’s relationships, get close to people you find attractive, interesting with similar interest. When you find someone with a personality that clicks it will usually just happen. I think wife was a virgin at 27 when we started dating and most of the people we worked with were hoes, men and women.
You sound like you have poor self-esteem, which usually doesn’t help. Maybe counselling with a psychologist could do some good for you.
femcel
What do you look like ?
Hi love! Self-esteem is the biggest step. You have to feel confident. There are plenty of self-help books and bloggers that focus on that.
Then it’s presentation. Everyone will say weight but that really doesn’t matter if you know how to dress yourself, do your hair, add a bit of makeup, and are confident. A first kiss isn’t too hard to land, I’m rooting for ya
I have a couple of friends who haven’t been asked out — ever. We all came from an exclusive school for girls. Both are perfect catch if you ask me since one is accomplished, athletic, and responsible. Another is funny, talented, and pretty. One guy friend of mine said that they don’t mind successful girls but if they feel threatened by it from the moment they meet, then chances become slim and the dating pool changes. She needs someone who compliments her success. For my other friend, he said, guys won’t always approach girls so she needs to actually interact with the intent to find a potential partner -flirt a little. Be yourself but with confidence and add a bit of mystery.
As for me, I went on a 2 year dating break and I’m having a difficult time bouncing back since I don’t really know where to look. My friend told me that since it’s not ideal to date an officemate and guys become limited as you get older, you need to try new things. Rock climbing, foreign languages, masters, painting, or other extracurricular activities to meet someone. So, hope these suggestions help.
Having been in the exact same boat at 28, I’d assume you were like me (I’m now 35, male). Shy, low self esteem, no confidence, socially awkward, crippling social anxiety, depression, introverted, so comfortable in your shell that you never wanted to leave it. When I did manage to go out to the store, I’d wear sunglasses indoors to hide behind them. I had the social acuity of a baked potato (though I’m marginally better now, lol).
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Having said all that, I did still occasionally get hit on and people were interested in me. While I can believe you’ve never been on a date or given out your phone number, I bet you a $20 chicken dinner that someone at some point was interested in you, or awkwardly flirted with you, or even tried to pick you up. I assume you were like I was, and sabotaged yourself for some reason or rationalized it wasn’t really happening. Numbers/Dates/Relationships only happen once you can pick up on those intentions, lol.
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Are you doing anything to change this? Do you look like you want to be approached? I notice a lot of women walk around staring at their phones, earbuds in, staring into space and avoiding making eye contact…
Guys have desires and if you know what they desire they will love you. I desire girls with slim figure. There is a 99% chance that I will like you physically if you are slim.