Dating : [19M] Have a hunch my [19F] GF lied about sexual past. Am I being rational?
So I met this girl off Tinder months ago. She swore I was the only person she’d met on there and that a friend had downloaded it for her to try out, and she only had it for a day. I later found a Tinder activation code on her phone that confirmed this. We had sex the first night we met. She became completely smitten with me, gave up heavy smoking and a bunch of other stuff just so she could be with me as I was on the fence at first. She’s constantly telling me I’m her first real relationship where she’s consistently having sex and that’s why she’s so infatuated with me.
She told me at the start she was a virgin. Later on she let slip that morning-after pills cost $5 in a different town. When I later asked how she knew, she told me a story of there being one guy that she hooked up with at a party when she moved to my city for the first time a couple months ago. She told me she had a relationship with a guy for 6 months at 16 when she was in an all girls’ boarding school but only kissed, which I find hard to believe. She later told me she’d been raped at 16 and counted him as someone too. She also lets me look through her phone and have her password and doesn’t even ask for mine.
I found that she’d been talking to some guys on Snapchat before she’d met me. She told me that she used to be a « non-sexual » hoe (w/e that means) and talk to people on social media before we met me but never do anything with them. I looked through the convos with these dudes and was shocked to see her telling the truth, for example stuff from the guys like « so when are we gonna meet for the first time? » before she’d then give an excuse or stop replying. She knows I’ve had much more sexual partners than the 2 she has admitted to and it makes her very jealous. I’d expected that would make her want to open up a bit more and tell the truth to « even the score » with me but it hasn’t. She’s a bad liar and gets nervous or smiles uncontrollably when she tries to twist the truth even a little. Yet each time I’ve asked about her « number » she’s told me seriously without a flicker of nervousness.
I do want to believe her but just can’t, I mean she already lied about being a virgin at first.
Lying about your sexual past can be a deal breaker, if were talkin like virgin mary turns out to be the town bike. but you seem to really like her and she seems to be into you so just say fuck it and move on its like 3 dudes before you which is nothing.
Chances are if shes on tinder shes been with a few guys before you.
cut this girl lose
Ok, so I’m going to be honest and say I just browsed over your post, but I’m still going to give you my stance on previous sexual partners.
IT DOES NOT MATTER, as long as she was/is safe, and clean. And as long as she honors the boundaries of your current relationship (if you are monogamous, then she is only with you)
So, unless you think she is cheating on you, the number of men she slept with before you should have zero bearing on what you think about her now. It should be literally a non issue.
I wouldn’t care about her sexual past. I’d worry about constantly changing stories. You’ll never know what’s true and what isn’t with her.