Dating : Healing a Crush-ed Heart?

Dating : Healing a Crush-ed Heart?

I’m a college student, and during my spring term I developed a really strong crush on someone; when we first met, I didn’t think she was anything special, but the more we got to hang out the more I really liked her. There were so many things we had in common and we shared similar thoughts about the most random of things: I don’t click deeply with many people (usually the type of person who’s good friends with most people I met but super close to only a handful), but I really felt strongly about her. Anyways, towards the end of the semester, I decided to ask her out but it turned out she had recently gotten into a relationship about a week ago. I learned my lesson that « love » is all about timing and went into summer committed to healing myself and getting over the whole situation (developed some new hobbies, picked up working out again, dedicated time to friends, etc.)

Well, it’s been two months, and just thinking about her or the situation still sends me into a state of dejection. Honestly, on 99% of days I’m doing fine and feeling great and happy; but there will be a couple of seconds every now and then where I just think about her and I’m left thinking about the what-ifs and feel my heart breaking slightly. The humor about the whole thing is that we were never really in a relationship so I don’t really understand why I’m feeling this strongly about the situation.

I know time heals all wounds, but it’s been two months and I don’t know what to do. Has anyone felt this strongly about just a « crush? » How did you get over it? Or are the intensity of my feelings just a result of relative inexperience with dating?