Dating : feeling overwhelmed by tinder
im trying to get back into the dating game and get out of my comfort zone after a break up a few months ago. i redownloaded tinder and put some updated pictures on it finally. i didnt really expect much but ive been flooded with matches and messages (26/F). im sorry if this is a weird thing to complain about but im worried on how its messing with my perspective towards others. i feel like theres so many people to talk to and meet which is great. but its making me totally disregard some people and leave conversations because im getting overwhelmed with messages. should i just start unmatching people, uninstall the app or go with the flow of it all?
the convos fade out – so just see who you connect with, I suggest you do a phonecall/video call before meeting! there’s so many weirdos out there and it will save you both time to bother going out to meet only to be disappointed.
Many times I could of saved a night out – their mannerisms/looks would put me off as soon as I meet them
Tinder is a waste of time for me. It’s all poly types or single moms, which are both dead ends imo. I’ve come to the conclusion that if I want something besides a hook up, I need to meet people in everyday life. Dating sites seem to be where all the emotional cripples go
Hey If ya Live in Atlanta I’ll take ya on a date hahaha, I just like connecting and all, but im 100% sure I aint ya type haha. But it’s difficult tbh, and I like Bumble more. so give it a go.
**Don’t unmatch people unless they offend you.** It tanks their internal score and makes it harder for them to get matches.
Just ignore the guys you don’t like.
Dont match with so many people at once. You control the amount of matches you receive. Dont swipe right on everyone, be picky about it. Stop swiping on people after a certain point. I usually match with around 10 people at a time, then I stop swiping and try to communicate with them. Whoever doesn’t work out, I’ll unmatch and do some more swiping. Men who do not respond to me within 2 days, unmatch. Men who say something weird or just have bad conversation skills, unmatch. Etc etc. Again, YOU can control the amount of matches you’re getting if you just STOP swiping and be cognizant to unmatch people you find you’re not interested in after all. I use Tinder Gold, and usually get around 3000 likes on a fresh profile. I’d say I match with around 10% of them, but I do so slowly not all at once.