Dating : Is bumble a bad online dating site? Or am I just ugly?
I don’t consider myself « hot », but not ugly either. However I’m starting to wonder. I’ve been on this site for 1 1/2 weeks now and I’ve yet to have a single woman message me.
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Get used to it, most dating sites are like that for guys, I’ve been on both OkCupid and tinder at the same time for 5 months and haven’t got a single match
I don’t like bumble, I feel like it’s not the best compared to other sites out there. I’ve been online dating for about 10 years now and I’ve always like okcupid or match.com
women only swipe right on the top 20% of guys attractiveness wise. so you may not be ugly you just aren’t top tier
Online dating for young men is not a high chance endeavor. The male:female gender ratio on these apps for dudes in their 20s is pretty bad. Sometimes really seems to attract men to download these apps.
Make sure you have good pictures, that aren’t selfies. It makes a massive difference.
All you can do is improve your profile, swipe, and hope.
Keep in mind improving your profile also might mean acquiring things that put you in-league with these women e.g. a better job, education, set of skills and interest, travel experiences, more friends, etc. The things you see in their profiles that makes you think « boy she must be smarter/more interesting than me.
Day to day you can prune bad photos, add better ones, get more interesting answers to questions; it can also motivate you to pick up a new goal in life.
Bumble is Trash. Tinder is much better and that’s saying something. Hinge is the best though!
It sounds like the problem is that you’re male. Look up sankey diagrams for male users on tinder, or any online dating statistics for that matter and you’ll see what I mean.
Why does it have to be mutually exclusive? Maybe the answer is both.
Just keep changing photos and things in your profile after a few times of no matches. Happened to me for awhile
Yeah, Bumble is pretty terrible in my experience. Tinder and Hinge have been much better, so try those.
good pictures are definitely important.
What I’ll also say is that, while I often swipe on bumble, I rarely message (I’m 21F). Often when I send a message I don’t receive a response, so I have half given up on the app but continue to swipe in case one day i do actually find someone I’m really interested in on there.
It doesn’t really make a lot of sense, I know. I don’t understand the way I use the app either.
Thought I’d say this though just to let you know that it might not be you, so much as general dating exhaustion from the women on the app.
1.5 weeks is not long enough. You have to use the app daily and swipe as much as possible to give yourself the best chance of success.
Bumble is Trash. Tinder is much better and that’s saying something. Hinge is the best though!
I think women stopped using bumble. When it first came out it was alright. I don’t think women like to be the first person to say something. I don’t get many matches on it but I do with Tinder.
In my opinion, it’s heavily skewed against men or the girls are very flakey on there and just want the attention. Plus, it looks like some are just there to be wannabe Instagram models. I’ve had couple matches within the last week that later unmatched me when we’ve only sent a few messages back and forth or after I used the daily extend for the timer.
I’m not sure what’s going on, the algorithm is messed up or women not as serious or honest about being on there as they say in their profiles. And I’m always pressured to pay to use « spotlight » occasionally for more views….
You are not attractive enough to get message