Dating : Am I being unreasonable?
I (22f) have a date tomorrow with a guy (27m) And was looking forward to it. However, a few things he has said have kinda made me question things but this time he made a sexual joke about men not lasting long in bed and how he might last longer than others. When we first started talking I told him I’m not looking to hook up and want something long term. He seemed like he was looking for the same. I’m not sure if I’m being stuck up about it, but I’m having second thoughts about our date tomorrow.
I’ve been out with guys who have kinda said the same things (sexual in nature) and they always ended up to be players. I thought he might be different, but I may be wrong. Am I being unreasonable about this? A prude? Not sure what you call it lol. In some ways I want to give him a chance but I don’t want to waste our time.
He has also commented on the age difference, saying I’m a baby. Not really sure how to take that. But it gets kinda annoying lol.
TL;DR Guy I’m talking to has said some kind of sexual things and made a dirty joke. Our first date is tomorrow and now I’m having second thoughts if I should even go. Am I being a “prude”? Or are all guys just like this lol
Of course not all guys are like that. Many are though. I’d say give it a shot since you never know. Everyone is different and you don’t know what they’re like until you give them a chance.
Nah you’re not being unreasonable, don’t waste your time and your body on someone like that
Based on just the information you’re providing it sounds like hes a player. That’s one way they test the waters to see if you’re up for it.
My advice is if everything else is okay and you’re not stretched for time. Continue seeing him if he’s pleasant company, just don’t go somewhere that drinking is going to be the theme incase he tries to get you drunk and sleep with you.
Haha personally I wouldn’t even go on the date with him. One sexual comment before knowing someone = they wanna hook up. It’s pretty clear.
And you’re not a baby or anything, but I don’t think a 22 yo girl who wants a LTR should aim for a 27 yo because 9/10 that guy’s going for a 22 yo for fun. It sucks to hear but that’s often how it is. There are exceptions to the rule, but yeah, I haven’t ever seen a guy that age purposefully go that much younger for a LTR unless there’s something else at play (like he only thinks younger is better, which is problematic, OR he doesn’t realize she’s that much younger and it just clicks because she’s right for him and vice versa). Up to you, but I’d move on. You have a lot of other options. Don’t rush it.