Dating : How common is it to be 22 and just not date?
I’m a 22 year old fairly average looking guy with a decent social life and I just never bothered with anything romantic or sexual. As a teenager I never thought much of it and no one really bothered me about it because probably because there’s a lot of people who don’t get into it during high school.
Recently though, more and more people have started asking, and I’ve been surprised at how surprised people are that I’ve never kissed a girl or been on a date. Why is this? Is it that uncommon? I was under the impression that there was a lot of people who at least didn’t get started until mid to late 20s because they’re busy or introverted or whatever. Or is it common, but people are just surprised because I don’t fit the stereotype? I’m not super attractive or particularly outgoing or anything. I have friends, I work manual labor jobs so I have to be in reasonable shape, though I’m not particularly strong or anything. Like, I’m in good enough shape that if you saw me, strength wouldn’t come to mind, but if you thought about it you’d assume that I go outside a good amount and could carry some boxes around.
This isn’t an « is it weird? » question where I’m looking for validation. I don’t feel bad about it or anything, it’s really just curiosity as to why people are so surprised and how much of an outlier I am.
Because people like to let romance and sex be the focal point of life. So the answer is fairly not very common.
It is not uncommon to be 22 and never been in a relationship. It is not uncommon either to be 22 and never had sex. It is uncommon to be 22 and never had a kiss. Like, regardless of how attractive you are, it is quite uncommon, unless you’re in a specific cultural context where kissing is treated more seriously.
Something being uncommon isn’t a bad thing, and yeah depending on your appearance that might surprise people more or less, because people are shallow.
But if you feel good with what you’re doing and youre not interested in that whole shebang, you do you. You seem to be comfortable with who you are and your experiences in life, and that’s the important part!
Not weird but society today is so focused on love and we’re more open about sexuality.
Its increasingly common for men because of female hypergamy
It’s pretty rare and pretty weird. You look normal and hide your mental illness well, which is why people are shocked.