Dating : In need of help
I have been out of the dating game for a while, and the girls who I have gone on dates with did not go so well, either the girl stops talking to me a few days after I match with her on whatever app I am using, If I am lucky I get to go on a date with her but only to have her ghost me. So I met this girl on Tinder on Monday and Thursday she gave me her number. We been texting since and yesterday I asked her out since we have a lot in common, way more than the other girls I matched with. Her exact reply was « I’ll have to check my schedule. I’m thinking next week and weekend are kinda busy. I work next Saturday 🙁 🙁 so it would have to be the following week. » I just played it cool and said that’s fine and continued our conversation. I was just wondering if this was just a way to let me down easy or if she is actually interested in me? I have had so many people ghost me and lead me on that I honestly do not know what to think. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
She could be legit busy, but who knows. Girls have too many options with online dating (along with a lot of losers and super creeps).
I think tinder and all this shit is absolute cancer. I began my dating career with tinder and never got matches. Killed my self esteem. I was convinced I was ugly.
After deleting it and just doing things I love (music and performing ), it turns out that a lot of girls actually think I’m hot. My life did a complete 180 after deleting that shit.
Do things you love and your self confidence will improve. And this will make you attractive.
Well why didn’t you plan something the “following week” as she said?
So after two days I texted with « how about the 17th we go to the zoo » and her response to that was « I am busy so it would have to be the week after. »
I told her I get the feeling that I am a low priority and she said she doesn’t feel comfortable dating so soon, she doesn’t do things last minute (last I checked planning a first date two weeks in advance is not last minute). And she also said I came on too strong and she didn’t need to feel pressured to do something.
not to sound like an asshole but why would you be a priority in her life? you’ve only been chatting less than a week. you can’t reasonably expect to be a priority to someone you matched with only a few days ago.
Next time don’t push it just don’t message her and wait for her to set something up. Just say hey just let me know when your available and leave it at that, no texting nothing. Texting especially prior to a first date is like a first class ticket to rejection town, save the getting to know eachother on actual dates.
Dude. You ask for help and when people suggest you something you get defensive. At least think about these suggestions once. As being a third party people observe things in a more practical way. So they might just be right, what do you know. Think about it once or try to change your approach, it might just help you out.